Thread: Oral sex question

After ten years of marraige my husnabd tells me I am not preforming oral sex correctly. He says everyone swallows, other wise it is just a hand job. Is this true? I don't think I can swallow, I am really arfaid I will vomit, especially given the fact that when I do preform oral sex on him I find myself gagging. What do I do? I can't beleive it has been ten years and he had never said anything to me before.
Pathetically Confused,
Fit and Fast

First of all, a lot....A LOT of women DO NOT
perform Oral Sex.

Secondly, many do not continue until the husband
ejaculates, so that Oral Sex is merely part of foreplay.

Thirdly, many women do find Oral Sex uncomfortable,
and it often does cause the gag response.

Fourthly, Few women swallow. It does cause many
who have tried to vomit, as the consistency is like
egg white, which if drunk does often cause vomiting...
(which is often the intent of swallowing egg white).

Dont worry I dont like to swallow or even touch it but my husband understands that its a texture thing for me. If it helps I will go until he cums in my mouth and then i spit it out but i rarely do that. I only do that if we get in an agrument and we make up. good luck and stand up for your self.

Kaylar,
Thank you for your response! I feel so relieved. I felt like I was donign it wrong or something. He had me thinking that all women swallow and there was something wrong me becasue I didn't want to.
Thank you!!!)

You are right, I don't like the texture much either. Thank you! I do need to stand up for myself a bit more, all he does is complain. He had even told me that the other girls he was with before me all swallowed. That made me feel even worse, however the responses here in this forum have given me hope) Thanks!!

Originally Posted by FIt and Fast

You are right, I don't like the texture much either. Thank you! I do need to stand up for myself a bit more, all he does is complain. He had even told me that the other girls he was with before me all swallowed. That made me feel even worse, however the responses here in this forum have given me hope) Thanks!!

Never believe anything a man tells you about this subject! Does he reciprocate orally?

Originally Posted by amom

Never believe anything a man tells you about this subject! Does he reciprocate orally?

Hi, yes he does. He actually is the one that intiates everything. He likes doing that. I don't mind once he starts going, but I get a bit nausiated he goes to kiss right after he has been down there. Now I just plain old tell him to wipe his face. uh.

I must just say that I do enjoy oral sex both receiveing and giving it, but it has to be in a very, very commited relationship. I don't enjoy a situation where he wants you to do it to him and then he's not fomfortable to do it. It can be very rewarding and bonding, but I NEVER, Never swallow, I just know i will be sick and if your husband says all girls do he's talking absolute rubbish. Most women do not from what I've heard and read. He's just trying to manipulate you. You are doing GREAT, don't let him bully you into doingin anything you'r not comfortable with. It should be anything between two concenting adults is good, the EMPHASIS is on concenting, not being co-ersed into.

I think, in some ways, we have moved away from the
'oral sex as part of...' to 'coming in the mouth'.

A lot of men who intend to kiss their wives on the mouth
are not all that anxious for her to receive his cum.

A lot of men feel detached from their wives when she is
down there and he is up here by himself.

It is only a minority that actually wants to cum in their
wife's mouth, but they seem to talk the loudest.

For many couples, it is an event that doesn't arise.
Either there is no oral genital contact, or very little,
and it is no more than nibbling on the ear lobe.

For some strange reason, within the past twenty or
so years, it has gone from virtually taboo or shocking
into a kind of 'due' that men believe they 'deserve.'

It is never a problem when two people are in the midst
of making love and their mouths wind up here, there or
over there, and it's one whole mutualy situation.

Recently, woman as 'blow job' and man as 'john' has
been shoving into relationships, making a lot of
people feel very uncomfortable.

Firstly, there's the wife who feels 'out of it', as if
she's being called upon to 'perform', and is left
feeling ripped off.

Secondly, there's the husband who believes he is
supposed to get this kind of stimulation, as payment.

Third of all, there is the disunity in the relationship
which does effect other aspects.

To move from the bedroom, it is like the wife being
asked to prepare a meal she hates because he likes
it.

She might be willing to do so once and a while at her
choice, but she begins to feel put upon when he is
demanding she prepare it on a regular basis.

Many woman don't realise they have a right to say
no, they have a right to refuse, they are not sold
into slavery with a ring on their finger instead of
through their noses.

I can thing of many relationships which break down
and when one starts to unravel what happened, it
often goes back to the bedroom, to the demand for
oral sex, and the compliance of the wife, who over
time begins to resent it more and more, then resent
the husband more and more, then find other things
to resent about him, until she virtually can't stand
him.

So she can give you a litany, from the fact he
doesn't recap the toothpaste, to the fact he
leaves the fridge door open, to how he curses
when he drives, on and on, filling note books,
and as one travels back to the point where
everything started to bother her, it usually is
the bedroom.

Whether it is oral sex, or the fact he comes and
she doesn't, or the speed at which he comes, or
that it takes him forever to come, on and on.

Some never confronted bedroom problem that
existed for a long time, and then, the cup runneth
over.

Wow, I feel bad reading these posts because I do swallow and do not consider myself manipulted or submissive. It is what I choose to do and my husband really appreciates it. Get a clue ladies, men LOVE it and as long as its not a one way street, why not satisfy him in every way. I've only done this with two boyfreinds and my husband and there is a difference in sex overall if you keep it hot. Obviously, if there is conversation about it, he wants it. Why would anyone want to deny their husband who desires something so simple. make him forget his old girdfriend! Please don't anyone judge me, I only say to do this in a commited, respectful relationship/marriage. Not CASUAL.