Mickey

I've been married for 3 1/2 yrs and my desire for sex is not there. I can't explain it. I was the 24 hours a day 7 days a week kind of person. I mean it was do it or we've done with this relationship. Since I began to have sex I loved it. Any man I dated would always come back over and over. What happened? My poor husband gets it 2 times a month if hes lucky.I want to be that hot women. That I called the dark side. Please help.

Mickey

undercat9

I'm only 21 and I have never been married or had a relationship longer than a year and a half but i wish i could help... why not make it fun. Don't make it like you feel like you have to have sex with him to make him happy... i am sure that he would be even more happy if you recipricated the passion. If you really love your husband why don't you try to just turn him on. Buy some new underwear and if he gets hot and heavy maybe that will make you a little more excited too. Maybe try some role playing or something... or ask have him take you out to dinner...lock your legs together underneath the table and look into each other's eyes and remember why you fell in love with him in the first place. I have just fallen in love and I thought maybe you would like a refresher on how love feels like when its new...try and make it new all over again...i know im young but it is just a suggestion...i hope i could help.

Mickey

Thanks for your advice. I even smiled when I read it. I have my darkside outfits and who knows maybe I will try some on. I feel that my husband doesn't know how to turn me on. At night when I feel that I want it I turn on HBO's cathouse (you know the show about the girls working the cathouse and pretend that he is a client)We get down and dirty but I seen his as someone else. What works best for me is seeing his as if he is with another women. I feel thats really sexy.

pinky2

Hi, I thought what you said was very interesting. What you are saying is that you see your husband as another woman? it seems to me that you are dominant in your relationship and you want more or less a controling feeling. I would have that feeling too, but the reverse role may work too. I think you should try and show him what turns you on. He's probably willing, but you have to show him. Remember, he is your husband. There shouldn't be any boundaries. Let him try some of your sexy lingerie or better yet. let him have sex with another woman and you observe if that's what turns you on. Let him be the man in bed while maintaining your dominant sexuality.