soleman

I hope you ladies won't mind a guy posting a question here, I'm just looking for some advice from females on a particular issue.
I have a foot fetish, my wife is aware of it although she doesn't really suspect the extent of it. She used to be ok about me massaging her bare feet and sucking her toes, but she has gradually got more annoyed by it. These days if I try to get near her feet she pushes me away. I don't want to press the issue because I understand our relationship has become less passionate and kinky, more about being affectionate and also we now have kids which means we are always exhausted and sex isn't really top of the agenda. It's not how I want it but it's what seems to make her comfortable and I feel I need to respect that.
But my foot fetish is actually very strong and the inability to satisfy it at least occasionally is driving me crazy. I find myself looking at other women's feet a lot, and also things happened with a girl at my work (with her feet, nothing else) which I'm not proud of but I was so desperate for a lady's feet I just couldn't help myself.
Do you think a foot fetish is really gross? Is she right to deny me her feet or should I try to make her see what it's doing to me? I'm worried if she realizes how much I obsess about feet, she won't want anything to do with me.
Do any of your partners have a foot fetish and are you ok with that?
Thanks!

Dutchess

There are a lot weirder things out there than liking feet! I do think you should tell your wife how much this means to you. She loves you, she'll understand.

Theresa

I agree with Dutchess. I would do anything for my DH and if that meant my feet, have at 'em. I would not have a problem with that.

nightqueen

That's good, but the OP said his wife doesn't really like it. I would talk to her, but realize that it may be something that really makes your wife uncomfortable.

PJhavinfunagain

Yes you need to have a heart to heart with your DW. Find out how you can compromise to mutual benefit. BTW Not sure what happened at work but if I was your DW and found out about any intimate actions outside of the marriage I would be devastated.

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calamity

This post made me register instead of just reading. My bf has this fetish, along with stockings and heels. I love it. I never knew what I was missing until he came along. He's the most sensitive and attentive lover I've ever had, fetishes included.

Can't speak for your wife or your situation, but I'm very happy. He says now, that I've got a bigger fetish than he does, LOL.

Explorer44

Sorry, this one just escapes me....

I had a guy tell my how much he wanted to put strawberries between my toes, cover them in whip cream, and drizzle them with chocolate...

Yeah, that just sounded messy and fungal.........not that I was fungal, mind you, that's just what came to mind!

calamity

We did whipped cream sans strawberries and it was very sensuous. A wonderful experience!

WildChild

Can't say I share the shoes thing but I do like nice feet and love to have mine massaged and played with. No one's made that into anything really sexual but I really don't see a why there would be a problem with this.

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OhThereYouAre

I developed a sexual association with my fiance's feet recently as well. I'm not sure what it is about them, but they sure do arouse me. I haven't noticed it with other women, though.

Thankfully she's got really pretty feet and she's into it.

Suggestions:

Is your wife self conscious of her feet? I know a lot of women who think feet are gross- even their own. That could keep her from indulging you. How about you get her a trip to a spa where she can get her hands manicured and a pedicure as well.

Otherwise - you'll have to talk to her about it. I probably wouldn't go so far to explain everything, but just let her know your're interested. I've never really brought the subject up, but I think my woman gets the hint.

Good luck - and stay away from the women at work. That's not very honorable no matter how foot deprived you are.

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