OTYA is completely right. It's all about variety and knowing what will work/how it will work for you. If you use a vibrator that often and that's the only thing that does it for you, you're so used to it that anything that doesn't feel like a vibrator probably won't work. I have one and love it, but we keep its use to a minimum. And I've only used it twice on myself, when he hasn't been around, since I bought it.

If you convince yourself that you can orgasm from other methods, it really does work. It takes some time, but it does. For example, no guy I've been with has ever been able to make me orgasm using just his hands. None. My current boyfriend is the only one who has and that's because I was really determined to have that happen since he's been able to in every other way. And that's helpful because you can add all that variety to when you have sex, you'll never know how he's going to get you off next