tbgirl

I have been married for 18 years. We have 3 kids. I knew about 1 fetish my husband had always had. He occasionally likes to dress in lingerie. Nothing too wild, but he does like to wear feminine undergarments. This has not actually been a bother to me.
However, I have recently discovered something much more disconcerting. Our relationship has grown more distant over the years, and we don't have sex nearly as much as we used to. With kids and getting near middle age, I know it happens to a lot of couples. However, I found out that he has been watching gay porn on the internet. We had a long talk about this. He confided that he has always had gay fantasies since puberty. Watching gay porn, reading gay erotica, or just fantasizing about men. He admitted that sometimes he fantasizes about men while we are having sex. He did say the more infrequent our sex has been, the more he fantasizes about gay sex.
He claims that the reason he has never acted on these urges, is beacuse he never finds any men he meets attractive, and only finds women attractive. He says that it has always been just a fantasy life. He says that he never fantasizes about just intercourse with a woman. The 2 fantasies he always has, are either gay sex, or being dominated by a woman, and being forced to crossdress, and or the woman forces him to perform gay sex acts. He does enjoy it when I have ocasionally tied him up, dressed him in bras and panties, and make him perform oral on me.
I don't know what to make out of all of this, and would apprecaite your honest input.
Is he gay? Could he be right, and he really is straight, and this is all just fantasy?

Mes_T

IMO there's a greater chance of him being bisexual rather than completely gay... If it's the former, then I don't think it should be too much of a problem.

But honestly, I think it's not much more than just fantasy. I have various fantasies as well, but actually acting on them would definitely turn me off.