Excuse my ignorance Theresa, what is a 'DH'?Originally Posted by Theresa
And what makes you enjoy it? Did it ever gross you out? Do you enjoy oral sex with all men or just your current partner? Does it matter if the semen goes on the face? Perhaps its the way your partner tastes, does he have a special diet?
That definitely sounds like a personality "issue" to me. Respect her and she might change her mind about it.
I love giving my bf oral and he loves returning the favor. I'm not a big fan of him cumming on my face, but once in a while I'll let him do it because he enjoys it and I don't necessarily find it repulsive...it usually startles me and sometimes reminds me of a dirty porn movie, lol. But he respects my wishes and he doesn't pressure me. All other times I swallow, which I have no problem with and enjoy to no end.
Not hostility perhaps bemusement?
All I can say to this is you must not have read very closely or only read threads that had a title indicating some dislike of giving bjs. There are a bunch of threads here giving enthusiatic advice on giving bjs, from women who enjoy giving this gift to a man they care for.
Not hostility perhaps bemusement?
DH is dear husband
Taste is a factor, diet will change that, you can find lots of diet info online if you do a search. The revulsion factor seems to be a combination of texture - can't do a lot with that, taste and just the concept.
Things that might help are make sure you are clean, keep things trim, and let her stay in control. DO NOT grab her head and start thrusting, unless she has specifically given you permission. It's a good way to put her off to it entirely, a good way to get teeth marks and not everyone likes gagging.
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DH is my dear husband of 19 years.
It never grosses me out because I know he loves it.
Face, mouth whatever!!!!
When I give him a BJ is also use edible lube and use my hand along with my mouth. Strawberry Kiwi....yummy!!!
It really is all about personal preference. It sounds like you just happened to get a girl who doesn't like getting it all over her face. Is that the only part she doesn't like, or is it giving you oral altogether that she won't do?
Personally, I give my boyfriend oral all the time, and I LIKE doing it. Knowing he's enjoying himself and that I'm the one making him feel that good turns me on just as much as it does him. And I don't mind when he finishes in my mouth at all, but I can see why she wouldn't like getting it in the face. Like OTYA said, it could get her in the eyes which stings like the devil. That and some do think it's degrading because it feels like a "take that (insert whatever word/name other than hussy that you will here)!" sort of thing. Not to mention, semen is sticky. It can be a real pain to get off, especially the face.
Try easing her into the idea. Maybe see if she'll do it for just a minute to help get you worked up before having sex or something. It doesn't need to be a "finish the job" thing every time. She might end up developing a taste for it, if you will.
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Brian, I think it's just personal choice. I don't think all women feel that way. I like giving oral, but I don't think I was always that way. I think you have to think of it as pleasing the other person that you care about and not as something degrading.
I think you should explain to her why you like giving oral and perhaps she would see it as more of an intimate thing in lieu of something demeaning. Have you maybe tried 69? IDK if that's an option but maybe if it was a mutual intimacy thing she might be more game?
Good luck
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Why not give it a taste? I mean it seems like you think she is totally off her rocker with not liking the taste and texture, at least then you could see where she is coming from. Personally, having a load of warm glue-like semen in my mouth is not the best part of my day (the taste has nothing to do with it)...which is why I will not let him do that very often. Your girlfriend is already at the baseline of not liking it, you cannot change a person's opinion if they do not wish to have it changed. And there is a degrading factor if a person allows there to be one. If someone thinks that a certain act is less than ideal then they will have a very hard time finding anything positive, and no matter how many times you say "but I would love for you to do this" they may not budge.
Personally, I do not love giving oral. But if I see that my boyfriend is aching for some go down action then sure I will give him oral but if he thinks he can blow his baby juice in my mouth without permission he will have one very upset woman to deal with after. No guy likes or wants that.
Thinking that your girlfriend will love something just because you see other girls loving it elsewhere is very counterproductive. Respect her wishes, if you say you respect her decision but would still enjoy something in return for your oral efforts she may be more inclined to give you the same.
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I frankly enjoy doing it for my hubby and don't mind him finishing in my mouth. (though I don't like it in my hair or eyes, I don't mind the face either sometimes) He usually tastes pretty good. As everyone else has mentioned it's really her choice and not yours. Some do and some don't and if that's something you need then perhaps you need to find another girlfriend. Not doing it has no bearing on how you feel about someone. Some women don't like having oral done to them either, for whatever reason (no idea why though).
Itsasecret said it pretty right..Have you ever tried tasting yourself? If you can't/won't how could you expect anyone else to do the same thing?
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It just came across as an over generalization.
Thin is that SOME women are hypocrites. Just as SOME men are hypocrites. They demand blow jobs but are repulsed by the idea of getting their face anywhere near their girlfriend's or wife's vagina.
It goes both ways. Some guys don't want to receive oral sex because they find it degrading to the woman and some women don't want to receive because they are afraid of being unclean.
It's just a matter of personal preference. Even if it doesn't always make sense.
Does your girl hate blowjobs in general or does she just not like you finishing in her mouth/on her face?
If she's fine with regular BJs maybe you just want to have her finish you with her hand for now and eventually she'll become more comfortable with cum.
Ok... I will try to keep calm... I feel a bit riled up by the OP's remarks and generalizations. I understand you are frustrated and need to rant but as this is a woman's site (don't get me wrong I love the input from the guys 99.9% of the time) it feels like an accusatory invasion. (just my feelings)
first... no matter why her reasons why would you want someone you love or at least hopefully care strongly about to do something they really do not like. Not sure how you handle it in your own bedroom but if you sound as demanding there as you do here well no wonder she doesn't want to talk about it.
2nd, is there anything you do not like to eat or grosses you out because of the texture or smell? I will not touch cottage cheese or tapioca because the texture makes me retch. Cum is similar to me.
Also a lot of people can not get around the "IK" factor of pitting their face where bodily fluids exit the body. If you have ever been with someone who was not exceptionally clean you may have a better understanding. My Dh is kind of a sweaty guy, I have no desire to go down on him if he has not recently showered. Now if he is fresh out and I catch him toweling off it is all I can do these days not to drag him off and give him some attention.
I would love to receive oral as much as I give these days (I recently have been enjoying it more and been making a point to give more) DH used to give me oral almost every time but since my first pregnancy aparently my chemistry changed or maybee he did not want to give because he was not receiving, I dont know we have not talked about it but I digress... I am lucky if I get oral 4 times a year and I have to ask (beg) for it. Talk about feeling degraded.
I admit I do not let DH cum in my mouth but I do my best to make it as pleasurable as possible. I take him to the edge and finish with my hands then help clean him up. He has not complained. The more I have been practicing this with DH I can tell we are both enjoying it more and more. He does not push things. He lest me do what I feel comfortable with and this gives me more confidence. If he wished it I would probably let him cum on my face. I would at least give it a try once and see how it went because I love him and he has not pushed me.
I think if you truly care about this girl you need to talk, find out why she feels the way she does. If she says it's icky, then you need to dig deeper. If she can not tell you then you have to re-evaluate your relationship if it is not something you are willing to work on and or live with you may need to find someone who is more like minded in the sex dept.
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