Brian

I am having problems with my girlfriend lately, and I would like some advice from a female perspective.

It seems when it comes to men giving women oral sex there are no problems. Most men like doing it, they like the taste, and they enjoy making the woman feel good. And understandably women enjoy receiving it also.

However when it comes to women giving men oral sex the BS starts. "Its degrading" "I don't like the taste/texture" are two of my girlfriends favourites.

How is letting me cum in your mouth/face more degrading than me getting a mouthful of sniz juice? Is the taste of sperm really worse than vaginal liquid?

But I digress. I don't really know why my my girl hates it so much. She told me cumming on her face was like "pissing" on her. Is she for real? Comparing semen to urine? A sexual fluid to a waste product? Is vaginal fluid like menstrual blood? I don't think so.

So whats the deal ladies? How can I encourage my girl to be less of a prude, or are the only non-prudish women in porn? Is my fantasy of finding a woman who is uninhibited and enjoys sex as much as I do just that, a fantasy?

OhThereYouAre

Wow - not a good idea to come to a woman's health forum spouting reactive sweeping generalizations.

This is not a man or woman issue. It's a personality issue.

Some like giving oral sex, some don't.

Some like getting semen in their face, some don't.

The key here is compromise.

If you give her oral sex, she should be willing to do the same.

However - I can see how she'd be apprehensive about getting a load in her face....it's unexpected, it stings if it gets in their eyes and I can see how some would feel its degrading.

Bottom line - if you two aren't willing to compromise, you might have to part ways. Sexual issues usually only get more pronounced as time goes on.

Good luck.

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gotgolf?

It works my gag reflexes so bad. I have vomited from oral sex. Once that happens, Im not in the mood anymore. I wouldn't say it's because of cum, but maybe texture? Sometimes just thinking about it makes me sick.

WildChild

Why are women such hypocrite when it comes to oral sex?
Hahahahahahahahahahahahah

He gets it more than twice as often than we have sex. I get diddly.

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OhThereYouAre

LOL - i have never seen you like this. Did you bust open that kahlua?

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"It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit..."

"People who lack the sense to question Big Lies always end up in deep trouble..."

"I don't worry about pointing fingers in the past...i operate under the assumption that every saint has a past and every sinner has a future..."

"Build the life you want and then find someone to share it with, someone who fits where you are and where you are going..."

Brian

Believe it or not, but I have scoured this forum for advice before posting this. Most of the threads all lead to one conclusion - women don't like semen.

Yet a quick search on google will reveal that most men don't just tolerate, but actively seek to engage in performing oral sex on women.

Also I have even heard women say that, until trying it, they thought the concept of a man performing oral on them was 'disgusting' - how can anyone think like that?

It seems to me that sex with women is just a selfish means of attaining pleasure for the woman. She doesn't really need a partner, just a life like dildo. And they take so long to orgasm...

Sorry...I have a tendency to rant. I genuinely appreciate any help, it is desperately needed.

Little

Take so long to orgasm? Ahem ...
Hahahahhahaahahahahahhahaha! Is 2.5 seconds really that long?
I know men who won't go down on women.
It's a personal thing. You don't like your girlfriend's reactions to sex? Find somebody you do like. It's very likely you will never change her opinions.

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Tex

Everything you say about men can also apply to women, everything you say about women can also apply to men. Like OTYA says it's a personality issue.

Brian

Guys I didn't mean to offend anyone, I'm sensing some hostility towards me.

Its not a 'personal' thing. I've gone through the archives of this forum, all the threads are the same. Its "degrading" and "gross".

I enjoy giving oral. I enjoy making someone I care about feel good. I enjoy the taste and overall experience associated with that.

What aspect of sperm is 'gross' and what can I do to lessen that aspect? I see semen as being analogous to vaginal fluid, and as such find it hard to comprehend any repulsion towards it. Its just a clean, unusual tasting bodily fluid.

Theresa

FYI Brian......I love giving my DH a BJ. And my favorite part is swallowing. There is nothing better than watching my DH when he is cumming in my mouth.

And........he doesn't give me oral at all.