Thread: help!GF is awesome at turning me OFF

Had a girlfriend once that barely tolerated fingering. She said she loved the sensation but was embarrassed about me getting my fingers all dirty and stinky. Gave me a long explanation about the folds of the vagina and how urine and natural juices get trapped in there to form some unholy concoction that she made sound like it could eat through steel.

So during one session I stuck my fingers in my mouth. She let out an embarrassed yelp and then wanted to strangle me. But I did it a few more times over the next few weeks and her reaction got milder and milder with each time. Eventually she either figured out that her vagina is not dirty or decided that I was insane to touch that 'stuff'. Whatever it was, she stopped worrying and began enjoying it more and eventually oral was added to the menu as well.

lmao. Nice post Tex. Oh my bf and I both enjoyed "the concoction that could devour steel". I am still iffy about fingers and all the slime touching other places. Ugh. My bf is just dandy getting who knows what EVERYWHERE.

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Ah the beauty of youth

Birth Control, or Condoms with lube.

CW

Well, there *is* a third option: start shopping for a crib and a stroller...


At their ages, there IS no "safe" time!
Ask me how I know...

Originally Posted by dolphinlefty

I am still iffy about fingers and all the slime touching other places. Ugh. My bf is just dandy getting who knows what EVERYWHERE.

Your bf is a wise man.
That "slime" is a natural substance, and not a bad one either, as many lucky men know!

Sounds exactly like me maybe 5years ago and 2 boyfriends in. I wouldn't say your incompatible yet. I think you just need to back off for a short time and do a little better job encouraging. Even when I first start masturbating as a teenager I used anal toys but that did not involve another person. It was many years and several boyfriends before I didn't nearly hit the ceiling if fingers went anywhere near there even accidentally while sticking some in my vagina. Then I went through a time of doing whatever I could to avoid giving oral because it was weird and one time he tasted bad. It helps to encourage in small amounts like settling for 1-2minutes without pushing. If she doesn't like it she doesn't but if she's just uncomfortable eventually she'll do it longer on her own if you just give a little encouragement and time. I also refused to allow anyone to give me oral until the guy that is now my husband because I tended to get infections from bacteria in the mouth which made everything uncomfortable.


I hate getting stuff everywhere. :/ I have a very sensitive sense of smell and while overall I like my own scent I hate when that particular scent is too concentrated. One reason (among many) my husband is quite confident I will never do anything with a woman. I hate that scent from any woman including myself. He's learned not to stick his fingers in me and then set his hand too high up on my side of the bed. There will be many complaint later. Getting it anywhere near my face might get him killed.

I think both of you need to get educated. Material about sex doesn't have to be filthy and by God sex is supposed to be wonderful! Not the harrowing experience you've described. Please read some more (both of you!) and if your partner doesn't share your sexual interests you may have to find someone who does.

People say sex isn't the only aspect of a relationship but when the sex is so frustrating it seldom leaves much room for the appreciation of the other aspects.

Leave her?