how do i turn him on in a bj!!!

dizzyJpuff · 10-24-2009, 01:48 AM

I am trying so hard to give my boyfriend a great bj but i dont know how!
i get him to cum and he says it is good but i think he is just being polite, he is really quiet during the bj and tells me before he cums
but
i want to blow his mind, pleease give me some suggestions
i just dont know wat to do so some step by step instructions would really be appreciated

**caterpillar79** · 10-24-2009, 01:50 AM

There have been a lot of posts about the same issue. Browse on this section more. Topics about bj and deep-throating are all available here.

**Fish** · 10-24-2009, 10:21 AM

I drive my bf crazy by teasing him a bit. I start by kissing him slowly down his chest. Kinda tease him a bit once you almost get there, go back up and kiss him on the lips and start over. Once I'm finally down there, he is very ready. I lightly lick the length of his penis a few times, focusing on the tip, then I'll give him a good suck. Then I usually suck on his balls for a little while, he really likes it when I tug them a bit. Then it's on to the show. He likes to lie on the bed so I usually straddle his leg and most of the motion is in my neck/head. You can also do it with him standing up; this is good if you like him to cum on your face or watch him cum in your mouth. If you can't go too deep (I usually can't without gagging, depending on how we're positioned), then spit on your hand and move it with your mouth. Suck hard enough to give him a good feeling but not too hard because you can hurt him. And be conscious of where your teeth are!! Just keep a rhythm going, and suck the end every so often too, pulling it out of your mouth while sucking so it makes a sound- apparently that feels really good. If you stop for a few seconds to suck on his balls again or lightly lick the tip of his penis that should drive him crazy too and begging for you to keep going. Don't stop the motion when he starts cumming, you may not want to do it as hard though. After he cums and is feeling really good, I like to suck on the head lightly and it makes him shake, literally. He loves it.
Does he like to give you oral too? You could always try 69ing...we like doing it on our side. That should get him going wild as well, but it does get hard to concentrate on what you are doing once he gets you going!

**WildChild** · 10-24-2009, 10:58 AM

Beginning to think we need a sticky on this, it gets asked so often. Surprisingly far fewer women are asking, how can I help him learn to use his tongue better?

**AlleyWay** · 10-24-2009, 06:04 PM

The best thing to do is to watch a porno you can learn alot from watching someone else.

**anonymouswhitefemale** · 10-25-2009, 06:24 AM

Tell him how much you want his sperm, get his cum on/in your face mouth and lick yourself clean.

**PJhavinfunagain** · 10-25-2009, 09:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dizzyJpuff

I am trying so hard to give my boyfriend a great bj but i dont know how!
i get him to cum and he says it is good but i think he is just being polite, he is really quiet during the bj and tells me before he cums
but
i want to blow his mind, pleease give me some suggestions
i just dont know wat to do so some step by step instructions would really be appreciated

My Dh is very quiet too and I understand it can be frustrating. It may be just his personality.
That being said I have been working on giving a better BJ. You can still make it awesome for him but only do what you are comfortable with. There is a great book called "tickle his pickle" It is awesome! It is highly recomended by many. I have seen it but not purchased it yet.

The #1 thing to turning him on is you thoroughly enjoying yourself! As I have shown more enjoyment Dh had begun to respond more. He was moaning intensely the other day and holding my hair away so he could see me. We both loved it!

**geedee** · 10-25-2009, 09:40 PM

Some guys are just quiet! If he's getting there I'm sure he's liking it!!!

**WildChild** · 10-25-2009, 09:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PJhavinfunagain

It may be just his personality.
That being said I have been working on giving a better BJ. You can still make it awesome for him but only do what you are comfortable with. There is a great book called "tickle his pickle" It is awesome! It is highly recomended by many. I have seen it but not purchased it yet.

Tickle His Pickle, is a nice overview of a variety of techniques including oral. If you want to get little more in depth I would get, Going Down. A nice starting point is Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, it explains simple oral without actually taking the penis in your mouth. That can be a good starting place to get comfortable with using your tongue.

**caterpillar79** · 10-25-2009, 10:11 PM

Preeettyyyy interesting books there, WC! I might zoom to the bookstore tomorrow to get a good browse on that! *winks

10-24-2009, 01:50 AM	#2
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10-24-2009, 01:48 AM	#1
dizzyJpuff Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1	how do i turn him on in a bj!!! I am trying so hard to give my boyfriend a great bj but i dont know how! i get him to cum and he says it is good but i think he is just being polite, he is really quiet during the bj and tells me before he cums but i want to blow his mind, pleease give me some suggestions i just dont know wat to do so some step by step instructions would really be appreciated

10-24-2009, 10:21 AM	#3
Fish VIP Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 43	I drive my bf crazy by teasing him a bit. I start by kissing him slowly down his chest. Kinda tease him a bit once you almost get there, go back up and kiss him on the lips and start over. Once I'm finally down there, he is very ready. I lightly lick the length of his penis a few times, focusing on the tip, then I'll give him a good suck. Then I usually suck on his balls for a little while, he really likes it when I tug them a bit. Then it's on to the show. He likes to lie on the bed so I usually straddle his leg and most of the motion is in my neck/head. You can also do it with him standing up; this is good if you like him to cum on your face or watch him cum in your mouth. If you can't go too deep (I usually can't without gagging, depending on how we're positioned), then spit on your hand and move it with your mouth. Suck hard enough to give him a good feeling but not too hard because you can hurt him. And be conscious of where your teeth are!! Just keep a rhythm going, and suck the end every so often too, pulling it out of your mouth while sucking so it makes a sound- apparently that feels really good. If you stop for a few seconds to suck on his balls again or lightly lick the tip of his penis that should drive him crazy too and begging for you to keep going. Don't stop the motion when he starts cumming, you may not want to do it as hard though. After he cums and is feeling really good, I like to suck on the head lightly and it makes him shake, literally. He loves it. Does he like to give you oral too? You could always try 69ing...we like doing it on our side. That should get him going wild as well, but it does get hard to concentrate on what you are doing once he gets you going!

10-24-2009, 06:04 PM	#5
AlleyWay VIP Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 50	The best thing to do is to watch a porno you can learn alot from watching someone else.

10-25-2009, 06:24 AM	#6
anonymouswhitefemale May 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,419 Blog Entries: 2	Tell him how much you want his sperm, get his cum on/in your face mouth and lick yourself clean.

10-25-2009, 09:40 PM	#8
geedee VIP Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 58	Some guys are just quiet! If he's getting there I'm sure he's liking it!!!