Thread: Lets talk P0RN!!!

There are so many things I want to try with my wife. Like watch porn while we have sex. Like standing BJs. Like (EDIT) I have a list. But nothing weird or kinky.
She's finally coming around, after 25 years. But if I were to tell her everything I want to do, she'd totally freak out and shut me out again. I have to take it slow... Just be patient. Patience is a virtue. (Aren't you sick of being so freakin patient all the freakin time???) Hang in there, it will eventually come, and it will be worth it. (Yeah, when you're 80 years old and can't get it up anymore).
Sorry, I'm hearing positive thoughts from my angel on one side, and negative thoughts from my demon on the other.
Like the way I wrote "My Ideal Marriage," I should probably just write down my wish list and give it to her. And just be done with it. And hope for the best. I think that's what I'll do. But I'll give my ideal marriage time to gel before I hit her up with anything else. That would probably be best. And it's requiring patience again! (There you go with that patience again. Snap out of it and get what you want now!) Oops, there the demon goes again.

Originally Posted by OhThereYouAre

One de-sensitizes the mind. The other de-sensitizes the body.

To each his/her own....but I don't condone either.

I guess you are right. If a woman is becoming reliant on the sensations a vibe provides to the point that her s.o. has no shot at pleasing her... that can be as hurtful as a guy turning to porn for their pleasure instead of the being intimate with their s.o.

Both are selfish acts, both deny couples of sexually satisfying each other in a way that would make the relationship awesome.

Sometimes vibes and toys can enhance a relationship, can help a guy give his lover an orgasm if she has difficulty having them bring them closer. I don't see how a guy masturbating to pictures of other woman can make a couple closer...

Am I the only one who gets more turned on by the softcore, not-actually-having-sex porn than the real stuff? I have no idea why, it just helps me along way better.

Anyway, the way I see porn is... It's better if used when we can't be around each other for a couple of days or something. We're both highly sexual people so going a couple days is like a lot of others going for a couple weeks (gah). But if one of us uses it while the other person is in the house, then yeah, that's a little much.

SOMETIMES it's okay to get the appetite there, as long as he goes to the right place to eat

Originally Posted by GlitterAndStuds

Am I the only one who gets more turned on by the softcore, not-actually-having-sex porn than the real stuff? I have no idea why, it just helps me along way better.

Some regular R rated movies with good actors and actresses have some brief little scene with minute nudity and just their passion looks so real , the story more complex and interesting -- its a lot more sexy then some hardcore porn with a girl that looks bored out of her mind, repeating lines like a robot as wc pointed out too.

Originally Posted by OhThereYouAre

Sometimes porn, when used together, can enhance a relationship as well.

I really don't see how a guy looking at pictures of OTHER women in order to orgasm or become arroused does anything to make a relationship better.

For the vibe thing. I am orgasmic. Multi orgasmic, I am one of the lucky. SO many women have trouble achieving ONE orgasm in their lifetime. You rarely, rarely hear of men saying " i can't orgasm, I am not sure if I had one or not, I don't feel anything down there ..." etc etc..

The majority of men having sex are also having orgasms, yet there is a large percentage of females having sex that arent having orgasms. Even some with compassionate lovers never experience one.

So a guy being able to provide his s.o who has difficulty orgasmsing with pleasurable sensations with the use of a toy CAN help them...BOTH... because he can share in her pleasure, be a part of it.

Please do explain how a heterosexual female can at all share in the pleasure of her man (who is perfectly capable of getting erections and orgasming with her and without porn) masturbating to pictures of other women. Please tell me how that can be a bonding moment... I don't see it.

I have to agree...I think the same way HD does. I was really sorry when we got our first computer. It can be addicting for some men and it is all over the internet. I think that it is the ultimate downfall for many relationships. Its free, its readily and easily available and I think that what you're looking for could easily be fulfilled by your SO if you'll just open up and let them. And I'm with Glitter and DH, the less you see, the more you hear, the more aroused I become.