JaxXx

i rarely orgasm with my boyfriend, especially of late... is it me? or him?

he does come quite quickly, not very quickly, but maybe i need longer... but i can orgasm very quickly in mastribation! but not with him, weather it be oral, hand or sex! is it me? and how can i mke this better... i feel so bad, when i dont come, because he feels even worse, like he's failed yet again...:confused then it makes me sad. should i fake a few orgasms so he thinks im comming? then he'll feel better, cos maybe its the pressure i put on myself to cum!!--> i just thought this up now... what are your thoughts PLS!!

WildChild

Faking is a really bad idea, it won't help you solve the problem. It is lying and that is never good. Did you orgasm with intercourse in the past? Are you getting much foreplay? Have your feeling changed?
This isn't about making him happy. It's about the two of you together.

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OhThereYouAre

Never fake. That doesn't solve anything and in fact will only make things worse.

Two things to try:

-You need to show him what you enjoy, and guide him how to bring you to orgasm.

-You also may need to tone down your solo sessions. These can make you less sensitive to you lover's touch, and may be what is hindering your orgasm. Sometimes, males and females can become so used to masturbation that it becomes very difficult for their partner to get the job done.

Good luck.

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caterpillar79

Never ever fake it. You will be at the losing end. Be vocal about what feels good during the act itself. He'll likely be proactive, and would value your input - it's a turn on for most men (as I've been told).

Read the Orgasm Loop - WC always suggests that. Add Intimate Communion (David Deida) - it is a must read.

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JaxXx

thanks, that actually makes sense, i just have to resist the urge to mastrubate, quite hard for me, i've tried before... its just so good!! but you make so much sense... will def try to 'tone down the solo sessions' thanks guys!! especially^^ great help!!