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Ohhh, I have fond memories of the days when pick up trucks (and most cars) had bench seats.
Ohhh, I have fond memories of the days when pick up trucks (and most cars) had bench seats.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
When I was in HS, graduated in 1984, is about the time cars started getting smaller. But, my mom had her parents car, a Buick (both of her parents died around 81), which was like a boat. It was huge. And had a huge back seat. Almost like a bed. I used that car a couple times for dates. Fun times!
I had a small Datsun pickup with bucket seats. Now that was awkward. But during the warmer months the back pickup bed worked pretty good when we went parking at the lake.
If kids want sex, kids will get sex. Anytime and anywhere they can. No matter what their parents, church, or school is trying to teach them.
I started having sex when I was in HS.. 16 years old with my boyfriend who I had been with for a very long time and loved (still w/ him today). I am w/ everyone else that if you are in a serious relationship with this guy, and are being sexually responsible then it is not a big deal. It seems you are a very aware of the risks of sex and are using common sense.
Just an FYI.. I don't know these friends of yours, but I would be willing to bet that at least some of them that are condemning sex are actually having sex themselves and saying those negative things to fit in and hide their own actions that they are probably scared they will be judged for.
I went to a HS where this sort of thing happened too.. girls who had sex were "SLUTS," and other girls would go around talking about how terrible it is to have premarital sex or sex while still in HS and they would NEVER be friends with someone who did those kinds of things. Guess what... a couple of those girls who ran their mouths about it.. walked across the stage to get their HS diploma and were noticibly preggo. Good thing the gowns are so roomie
Basically, what I'm saying is - don't worry about what other people are saying because their actions behind closed doors might not be so upstanding. Everyone has their secrets and they are NOT better than you. As long as you are comfortable with your situation and being safe, you are fine.
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
It sounds like you guys are being smart and responsible about it. I, too, started having sex in high school.. I was 15 and one of the first of my friends to do it. There wasn't any judgement though.
If you love him and feel that the decision was right for you, that's all you need to be concerned with. The opinions of these other girls are exactly that.... opinions. If they don't ever want to have sex, that's their prerogative. They shouldn't judge you based on what you feel is right for YOU.
I agree that I've never believed in people teaching a class that told you to only do ONE thing, which is abstinence. Especially if they drill it into your head like that just to scare you out of it. My health class in HS was good in a way that it said abstinence is a good option if you don't want to risk pregnancy and STD's, which is obvious. But they also went over all the other options, and above all made sure that we were responsible and educated in whatever we did. That's how it should be done.
I've got to be direct
If I'm off please correct
You're standing on my neck....
Thanks everyone for your replys. =)
I just wish it didn't have to be such a bad and scary thing. With all these teen pregnancies and 12 year olds starting to have sex it's turning into this huge problem with society.
To tell you the truth I enjoy it. lol. I personally don't want to just stop because of other people and pregnancies and yada yada yada. Do you think I'm being smart though? Like smart and safe enough to not have to worry as much as I do? Like I said we use protection to the fullest like DEPO shot, condoms, and withdrawl (even tho its pointless with the shot and condoms) all at once and consistantly every time. I don't know what else to do to make it any safer than we've already made it. I know there's always going to be a risk but right now I think it's pretty slim.
It would be cool to know like the percent chance I have using all those things at once consistently. Like the shot is 99.9% effective, condoms are like oh idk 95% effective maybe higher, and withdral is really low i know but like all those together?
I worry too much =P I just feel like the second I relax and don't take it seriously will be the time I mess things up =/
Hmm. You definitely DON'T need the withdrawal method with DEPO and condoms put together, dear. Stop withdrawing and enjoy your safe sex to the fullest!
I second that. The condoms change it enough as it is, why add to that?
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
Those SAME girls that are saying "Oh that's not going to happen to me!" are going to some of the ones with kids in a few years.
"Sex is bad" is just lip service. They just want to sound like good girls. As a matter of fact, this sounds like a good girl competition. When hormones start raging, and one thing leads to another, they will all be having sex too.
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