Need help with my SEX DRIVE!!!!!

JBabe · 10-27-2009, 10:31 AM

Let me start out saying I have a very high sex drive. My husband and I have been married over a year. We have been together for almost four years total and our sex life has been aaa bit rocky. I want it a lot and he can deal with 1 or 2 times a week. I have pushed, cried, have gotten depressed, and finally I had decided that if he wanted it that he could come to me. He seems perfectly okay with it. The problem is still that I am sexually hungry most of the time. I want to find something that could possibly calm me down. I have done the exercise and eating right but it only seems to heighten my desire. Even now I barely exercise and my diet has slipped a bit and it is still high!!! I masturbate I am frustrated and do not know what to do from here. I have tried talking to him. It just seems to all be forgotten rather quickly. Help

**Tex** · 10-27-2009, 10:42 AM

What's his reason for not wanting more sex?

**WildChild** · 10-27-2009, 10:43 AM

Welcome to the club, we have a current thread on this right now. Sounds like you are getting more than many of us! Letting your health or emotional state deteriorate is not a solution - I tried that in the past. All it does is mess up your health and mental state, surprisingly that doesn't seem to help.

Begin at the beginning, you both should get a physical with blood work, have his hormones checked.

JBabe · 10-27-2009, 10:44 AM

He says he just doesn't have the urge.

**Theresa** · 10-27-2009, 03:43 PM

It is hard NOT to get emotionally frustrated when you need it sooooo bad. I guess men are like women. Some have a high sex drive and some don't. I sure wish mine had a high one.

Thinking of you - Good Luck

**caterpillar79** · 10-27-2009, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by JBabe

He says he just doesn't have the urge.

Hormones and other bodily functions affect out URGES enormously. That being said, I'd do what WC suggested. Take care, and I hope he cooperates with you.

**blondie80** · 10-27-2009, 04:44 PM

It can be a real hard thing to deal with when the sex drives of 2 people don't match up, w.c is right you can't beat yourself up emotionally and for some reason masturbation doesn't change the frustration because it is a need to connect as much as it is a need to have the pleasure.
I think sometimes its hard because to start you get frustrated you get angry you get down on yourself I know I just felt that I wasn't wanted but now I dont quite see it that way and am more happier to let things go a little more, it has taken a while to be able to accept that I cant always have it, but if you cant accept it then I think your always going to be frustrated!

JBabe · 10-29-2009, 09:40 AM

Thank you everyone! :-D I really appreciate the advice! We have not tried checking our hormones yet so this will be interesting to find out the results.

10-27-2009, 10:31 AM	#1
JBabe Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Missouri Posts: 3	Need help with my SEX DRIVE!!!!! Let me start out saying I have a very high sex drive. My husband and I have been married over a year. We have been together for almost four years total and our sex life has been aaa bit rocky. I want it a lot and he can deal with 1 or 2 times a week. I have pushed, cried, have gotten depressed, and finally I had decided that if he wanted it that he could come to me. He seems perfectly okay with it. The problem is still that I am sexually hungry most of the time. I want to find something that could possibly calm me down. I have done the exercise and eating right but it only seems to heighten my desire. Even now I barely exercise and my diet has slipped a bit and it is still high!!! I masturbate I am frustrated and do not know what to do from here. I have tried talking to him. It just seems to all be forgotten rather quickly. Help

10-27-2009, 10:43 AM	#3
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 6,230 Blog Entries: 5	Welcome to the club, we have a current thread on this right now. Sounds like you are getting more than many of us! Letting your health or emotional state deteriorate is not a solution - I tried that in the past. All it does is mess up your health and mental state, surprisingly that doesn't seem to help. Begin at the beginning, you both should get a physical with blood work, have his hormones checked. __________________ We can only learn to love by loving. Iris Mudoch, British writer

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Tex Gold Contributor 500+ Posts $Tex's Avatar$ Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 1,124	What's his reason for not wanting more sex?

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Theresa Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: SW ND Posts: 230	It is hard NOT to get emotionally frustrated when you need it sooooo bad. I guess men are like women. Some have a high sex drive and some don't. I sure wish mine had a high one. Thinking of you - Good Luck

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blondie80 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 119	It can be a real hard thing to deal with when the sex drives of 2 people don't match up, w.c is right you can't beat yourself up emotionally and for some reason masturbation doesn't change the frustration because it is a need to connect as much as it is a need to have the pleasure. I think sometimes its hard because to start you get frustrated you get angry you get down on yourself I know I just felt that I wasn't wanted but now I dont quite see it that way and am more happier to let things go a little more, it has taken a while to be able to accept that I cant always have it, but if you cant accept it then I think your always going to be frustrated!

10-29-2009, 09:40 AM	#8
JBabe Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Missouri Posts: 3	Thank you everyone! :-D I really appreciate the advice! We have not tried checking our hormones yet so this will be interesting to find out the results.