Fish

I've heard that woman on top is the least painful, but I've also read that man on top is less painful as well. So which is it? I have this idea that man on top is more intimate, I don't know why? He is very, um, well equipped and is afraid of hurting me. We are both virgins and have been together 3 years; he has fingered me a lot and it has never really hurt. Thanks!

ItsASecret

For me woman on top is one of the most painful, only because my boyfriend is larger than average. I would suggest the spooning position, it is how we got going. As long as he can control his urge to pound you will be fine. Have him finger you for a bit, see if you can get it to feel totally okay with two fingers so that your muscles are able to accommodate his penis easier. Then just have him push the tip in, sit for a few seconds and pull out, and go the tip again and pull out, then push back in only a tiny bit more and keep repeating that sort of process...the key is to have your body fully relaxed and have your muscles loosened up so that there is no significant (if any) pain.

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Fish

Yeah that is kind of what I was thinking about being on top. Mmm the spooning position looks amazing. It feels fine when he puts 2 fingers inside me, 3 even, so I'm not so worried about his girth as I am about length, though he is larger than average on both accounts so I guess we'll see. I have no reservations about this and obviously we've built up a lot of trust to this point so I think my muscles will be pretty relaxed...oooo the anticipation!!

Mes_T

I think if you're careful it shouldn't hurt at all the first time... It didn't for me, anyway. Start slow and use lube!