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and i'm not worried · 10-28-2009, 11:42 PM

Okay so my friend recently called me a . And she was serious. The question is, am I?

Here's a little background information..I am 18. I lost my virginity December 2008, on my birthday actually. Within the past 10 months, I have had sex with 4 people. One of them was my boyfriend at the time. The other 3 were people I was talking to, I guess you can call "friends with benefits".

To me a is someone who will have sex with just about anyone, more than one person in a day, or even at a time. It's not like i have sex with random people. The first two were very close friends of mine, whom I felt very comfortable with. The third one was my boyfriend a couple months later. And the current person is someone I guess i see it as comfort to my recent breakup. I just like the feeling i have when someone is that "close" to me. I like being intimate and i just want that feeling of appreciation and desire.

Please, I'm open to opinions, and i'd like to hear what some of you think..am i a "" or just someone who enjoys sex?

and i'm not worried · 10-28-2009, 11:45 PM

Sorry, i didn't know there were some word rules here lol, the word i used i'd define as "someone who sleeps around"

**Tex** · 10-28-2009, 11:50 PM

If you were a guy and slept with four different women in ten months, then what would you be? A guy!

You're a consenting adult and they're consenting adults. What y'all do with each other and to each other is nobody's business but yours.

and i'm not worried · 10-28-2009, 11:52 PM

Yes i agree with youuu. It's not my falut i enjoy sex and can't go more than a month without it

but yes i really feel whatever i do is my business, and none of friends! Im a big girl i can suffer the consequences on my own haha

**Tex** · 10-29-2009, 12:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by and i'm not worried

It's not my falut

It's not a fault at all.

Obviously you should always be careful to use proper protection and also not to get involved with people that might be bad for you emotionally, but with whom you have sex and for what reasons is nobody's concern but your own.

**acerousme** · 10-29-2009, 12:43 AM

ohhhh jeez...Tex said Y'all.

Honey...you're fine

That number is NOTHING compared to others. Just be careful, okay??...and keep us updated.

Sorry, should have filled u in on the rules.

**broseph** · 10-29-2009, 12:55 AM

don't try and put a label on what you are. Those are your choices and you shouldn't live apologetically about it. You like sex, . It's perfectly normal for a girl to be with that many guys. Hook up with however many guys you decide, just be safe :]

**Hopeless Dork** · 10-29-2009, 02:42 AM

Only YOU can define for yourself what a 'person that sleeps around' is. For every single person that definition is different. Are you happy? Do YOU feel bad about yourself? If the answer is no then don't let others tell you how to feel about YOU.

Be safe, use protection, for both your body and your heart. Don't let anyone use you, do the things that YOU want to do that don't hurt anyone including yourself and you will be just fine.

Your friends probably are just worried for your reputation, your health and your heart. They are probably not trying to hurt your feelings. Take their advice with a grain of salt, listen to them, then make up your own mind on whats right and wrong.

10-28-2009, 11:42 PM	#1
and i'm not worried Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 4	? Okay so my friend recently called me a . And she was serious. The question is, am I? Here's a little background information..I am 18. I lost my virginity December 2008, on my birthday actually. Within the past 10 months, I have had sex with 4 people. One of them was my boyfriend at the time. The other 3 were people I was talking to, I guess you can call "friends with benefits". To me a is someone who will have sex with just about anyone, more than one person in a day, or even at a time. It's not like i have sex with random people. The first two were very close friends of mine, whom I felt very comfortable with. The third one was my boyfriend a couple months later. And the current person is someone I guess i see it as comfort to my recent breakup. I just like the feeling i have when someone is that "close" to me. I like being intimate and i just want that feeling of appreciation and desire. Please, I'm open to opinions, and i'd like to hear what some of you think..am i a "" or just someone who enjoys sex?

10-29-2009, 12:43 AM	#6
acerousme Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: May 2008 Location: In the MIDDLE OF NOWHERE, Canada Posts: 935 Blog Entries: 46	ohhhh jeez...Tex said Y'all. Honey...you're fine That number is NOTHING compared to others. Just be careful, okay??...and keep us updated. Sorry, should have filled u in on the rules. __________________ "Gumption" Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

10-29-2009, 02:42 AM	#8
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 1,236	Only YOU can define for yourself what a 'person that sleeps around' is. For every single person that definition is different. Are you happy? Do YOU feel bad about yourself? If the answer is no then don't let others tell you how to feel about YOU. Be safe, use protection, for both your body and your heart. Don't let anyone use you, do the things that YOU want to do that don't hurt anyone including yourself and you will be just fine. Your friends probably are just worried for your reputation, your health and your heart. They are probably not trying to hurt your feelings. Take their advice with a grain of salt, listen to them, then make up your own mind on whats right and wrong. __________________ ------------- Defintion of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

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10-28-2009, 11:45 PM	#2
and i'm not worried Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 4	Sorry, i didn't know there were some word rules here lol, the word i used i'd define as "someone who sleeps around"

10-28-2009, 11:50 PM	#3
Tex Gold Contributor 500+ Posts $Tex's Avatar$ Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 1,120	If you were a guy and slept with four different women in ten months, then what would you be? A guy! You're a consenting adult and they're consenting adults. What y'all do with each other and to each other is nobody's business but yours.

10-28-2009, 11:52 PM	#4
and i'm not worried Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 4	Yes i agree with youuu. It's not my falut i enjoy sex and can't go more than a month without it but yes i really feel whatever i do is my business, and none of friends! Im a big girl i can suffer the consequences on my own haha

10-29-2009, 12:55 AM	#7
broseph VIP Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 31	don't try and put a label on what you are. Those are your choices and you shouldn't live apologetically about it. You like sex, . It's perfectly normal for a girl to be with that many guys. Hook up with however many guys you decide, just be safe :]