We haven't had intercourse and now my fiance is scared of becoming pregnant.plz help

eddy · 10-31-2009, 03:16 PM

hi there all. I am a guy.sorry for writing in women's forum but i couldnt help it coz i donno who to ask.

I am from india and hope you all know that sex before marriage is a big taboo down here in india please consider and help me.

well me and my fiance had some foreplay and she is scared of becoming pregnant and she doesnt wana be coz she is jus 21 and she is still doing her course and she wants to be a doc.

I'll explain breifly.

We both were in the car and we both had oral sex and i ejaculated and after somtime i took a leak and wiped my thingy with a nice clean tissue paper, we engaged again in the foreplay business and the worst part is she is a VIRGIN and she doesnt wana have proper intercourse unless and untill we are married. so again she gave me oral pleasure and i took my penis and kept it on her vagina and starting rubbing up and down, once or twice i tried pushing it inside in her opening and she started to yell (not due to pain, coz of anger ) and i took out and we stopped everything and we both were in a awkward silence.

as she was scared the next day evening probably after 20 hrs she took emergency contraceptive pill.

well after two days I was touching her breast and she was complaining about her nipples being sensitive and a bit errect. due to the EC pill ?
or starting signs or pregnancy

?

My boubts are:-

will she get pregnant ?

what about abortion ?

She is a virgin and i am really worried what will happen during abortion procedure !

Please respond me and pull me out of this misery !

thanks in advance to you all

bye

**nightqueen** · 10-31-2009, 03:55 PM

I think it would be very, very highly unlikey that she would be pregnant. And, if she took the morning after pill then there's no way she is. Her breasts are most likely sore because of the pill. If she is studying to be a doctor I would think she might know a little more about this? Good luck.

**Texasred** · 10-31-2009, 03:57 PM

She can consult her medical courses and learn that the likelihood of her being pregnant is very very small!
Her nipples are very likely sensitive because of all the attention you have been paying to them lately, but it could also be a side effect of the contraceptive drug she took.
Relax, take a deep breath...

eddy · 10-31-2009, 06:18 PM

well thanks alot for the response. I am a bit happy but i forgot to tell about the pre-cum i mean we both were pre-cumming a bit heavy when i was rubbing my penis on the top of my fiance's vagina. Does this create any possiblilities of her becoming pregnant ?

plz reply.

**broseph** · 10-31-2009, 08:44 PM

yes it does dude but you're probably fine. Use a condom.

**WildChild** · 10-31-2009, 09:22 PM

Since you used the Morning after pill, it is very unlikely.

**kira** · 10-31-2009, 11:51 PM

The emergency pills are highly effective. The odds of being pregnant when it's taken within the first 24hours are very low. Since there was also not full ejaculation inside the odds are even lower. However continuing to do things like that may end up with her pregnant in the future. You need to find a form of birth control to use during any penetration or risky activities instead of relying on things afterward or just having to stay paranoid about it every time.

Emergency pills are a high dose of the hormones normally taken daily to stop pregnancy. They can cause symptoms similar to pregnancy or menstruation. Sore breasts, vaginal bleeding in very small or large amounts, nausea, and feeling stressed or emotional are common after taking it. It should only last a couple days though. The side effects of taking the emergency pills can be enough reason to avoid creating a situation where you feel the need to use them.

**PJhavinfunagain** · 11-01-2009, 07:32 AM

Everyone here is right. Probability of her getting pregnant is pretty much Nil...

My bigger concern is why are you pushing her so much? She is pleasuring you orally and you her. She has good reasons for not wanting to engage in Intercourse right now. Why don't you just wait till you get married then she can go on Birth control so she can finish school. I know it can get frustrating when you want sex so much. But hopefully you want her more. You both need to talk about this. If you are engaged there should be no "awkward silence" There are many more things than just this to deal with once you get married. IF you can't talk now your marriage will fail (In my opinion).

eddy · 11-02-2009, 11:24 AM

hi there all..

Thank u all for ur response and suggestions..we both had a talk and we have settled on mutual decision..

One more thing..its been 8 days she took the emergency pill..still she is still complaining about her nipples and breast being sensitive..its been 3 days we havnt got indulge in any sexual activities except kissing.

Is this quite normal when the EC pill is taken or is there any other indication for this reason ?

Please reply..will be waiting.

Thanks to all in advance.

eddy · 11-02-2009, 11:43 AM

and yeah just wanted to know if this effect is due to the EC pills then how long will this effect last and i just asked her wether she has any sorta discharge through her viagna she said its like usually just a lill' bit wet. Wen i asked the colour of the discharge she replied its water like, no colour no smell..is this common ?
Pregnant women also discharge rite ?

what will be the colour of the discharge ?

Is this common too ?

Please do reply.

Thanks.

10-31-2009, 03:16 PM	#1
eddy Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 6	We haven't had intercourse and now my fiance is scared of becoming pregnant.plz help hi there all. I am a guy.sorry for writing in women's forum but i couldnt help it coz i donno who to ask. I am from india and hope you all know that sex before marriage is a big taboo down here in india please consider and help me. well me and my fiance had some foreplay and she is scared of becoming pregnant and she doesnt wana be coz she is jus 21 and she is still doing her course and she wants to be a doc. I'll explain breifly. We both were in the car and we both had oral sex and i ejaculated and after somtime i took a leak and wiped my thingy with a nice clean tissue paper, we engaged again in the foreplay business and the worst part is she is a VIRGIN and she doesnt wana have proper intercourse unless and untill we are married. so again she gave me oral pleasure and i took my penis and kept it on her vagina and starting rubbing up and down, once or twice i tried pushing it inside in her opening and she started to yell (not due to pain, coz of anger ) and i took out and we stopped everything and we both were in a awkward silence. as she was scared the next day evening probably after 20 hrs she took emergency contraceptive pill. well after two days I was touching her breast and she was complaining about her nipples being sensitive and a bit errect. due to the EC pill ? or starting signs or pregnancy ? My boubts are:- will she get pregnant ? what about abortion ? She is a virgin and i am really worried what will happen during abortion procedure ! Please respond me and pull me out of this misery ! thanks in advance to you all bye

10-31-2009, 09:22 PM	#6
WildChild WH Moderator Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 8,597 Blog Entries: 6	Since you used the Morning after pill, it is very unlikely. __________________ We can only learn to love by loving. Iris Mudoch, British writer

11-01-2009, 07:32 AM	#8
PJhavinfunagain Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: upper midwest Posts: 425	Everyone here is right. Probability of her getting pregnant is pretty much Nil... My bigger concern is why are you pushing her so much? She is pleasuring you orally and you her. She has good reasons for not wanting to engage in Intercourse right now. Why don't you just wait till you get married then she can go on Birth control so she can finish school. I know it can get frustrating when you want sex so much. But hopefully you want her more. You both need to talk about this. If you are engaged there should be no "awkward silence" There are many more things than just this to deal with once you get married. IF you can't talk now your marriage will fail (In my opinion). __________________ "When one door closes, another opens. But we often look so regretfully upon the closed door that we don't see the one that has opened for us." Helen Keller

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10-31-2009, 03:55 PM	#2
nightqueen Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 195	I think it would be very, very highly unlikey that she would be pregnant. And, if she took the morning after pill then there's no way she is. Her breasts are most likely sore because of the pill. If she is studying to be a doctor I would think she might know a little more about this? Good luck.

10-31-2009, 03:57 PM	#3
Texasred Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: North Texas Posts: 313	She can consult her medical courses and learn that the likelihood of her being pregnant is very very small! Her nipples are very likely sensitive because of all the attention you have been paying to them lately, but it could also be a side effect of the contraceptive drug she took. Relax, take a deep breath...

10-31-2009, 06:18 PM	#4
eddy Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 6	well thanks alot for the response. I am a bit happy but i forgot to tell about the pre-cum i mean we both were pre-cumming a bit heavy when i was rubbing my penis on the top of my fiance's vagina. Does this create any possiblilities of her becoming pregnant ? plz reply.

10-31-2009, 08:44 PM	#5
broseph VIP Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 31	yes it does dude but you're probably fine. Use a condom.

10-31-2009, 11:51 PM	#7
kira Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 307	The emergency pills are highly effective. The odds of being pregnant when it's taken within the first 24hours are very low. Since there was also not full ejaculation inside the odds are even lower. However continuing to do things like that may end up with her pregnant in the future. You need to find a form of birth control to use during any penetration or risky activities instead of relying on things afterward or just having to stay paranoid about it every time. Emergency pills are a high dose of the hormones normally taken daily to stop pregnancy. They can cause symptoms similar to pregnancy or menstruation. Sore breasts, vaginal bleeding in very small or large amounts, nausea, and feeling stressed or emotional are common after taking it. It should only last a couple days though. The side effects of taking the emergency pills can be enough reason to avoid creating a situation where you feel the need to use them.

11-02-2009, 11:24 AM	#9
eddy Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 6	hi there all.. Thank u all for ur response and suggestions..we both had a talk and we have settled on mutual decision.. One more thing..its been 8 days she took the emergency pill..still she is still complaining about her nipples and breast being sensitive..its been 3 days we havnt got indulge in any sexual activities except kissing. Is this quite normal when the EC pill is taken or is there any other indication for this reason ? Please reply..will be waiting. Thanks to all in advance.

11-02-2009, 11:43 AM	#10
eddy Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 6	and yeah just wanted to know if this effect is due to the EC pills then how long will this effect last and i just asked her wether she has any sorta discharge through her viagna she said its like usually just a lill' bit wet. Wen i asked the colour of the discharge she replied its water like, no colour no smell..is this common ? Pregnant women also discharge rite ? what will be the colour of the discharge ? Is this common too ? Please do reply. Thanks.