im so confused bout things help me plz

Amber_1992 · 11-02-2009, 02:08 AM

alright well sadly im only 16 and i lost m virginity recently and him and i had sex again on Halloween and ever since Ive had so much tension and the urge to have sex with him. i don't masturbate or anything because i have my own opinion on it and im against it. idk what to do or how to solve it. im just so horny im extremely emotional and he cant do anything.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-02-2009, 02:21 AM

So sweet, there is absolutely nothing wrong with masterbation if your partner is not with you, if he is you are fine to believe that you don't need to do it... That's your call.

What are you upset about? What has he said? How long have you been with him?

Welcome to the Forum.

CW

**WildChild** · 11-02-2009, 06:44 AM

Are you using conception control?
What is it that he can't do?
Masterbation helps you learn what it takes to orgasm, relieves tension, and lets you know your own body and be in charge of your sexuality when you can't be with a lover.
From the little you've said I'd guess you had sex, didn't orgasm but maybe came close and your body is craving that expereince?

**LanaBear** · 11-02-2009, 09:27 AM

I can't add anything to the above, but if you could elaborate as to what you confused and upset about, it would help us give you advice.

**StillLearnin** · 11-02-2009, 01:00 PM

Sounds like you are freaking out mainly about it being your first time. It will be ok.
Just be careful and use protection.

**nightqueen** · 11-02-2009, 02:35 PM

You don't have a problem having 16 at sex, but think masterbation is wrong? What kind of advice are you seeking?

Awoman2 · 11-02-2009, 07:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nightqueen

You don't have a problem having 16 at sex, but think masterbation is wrong? What kind of advice are you seeking?

You took the words right off my fingertips.

**ThexMrs** · 11-02-2009, 07:24 PM

Please elaborate on what is confusing, what he can't do and why you're emotional. Also, if you don't mind... I'm curious as to why you don't masturbate and what you think is wrong with it?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-03-2009, 12:08 AM

Okay, a little bird added some more, so this is my take

You've had sex with him a few times and you almost had an orgasm and it's playing on your mind because you want that, you want to feel that, but when you discussed it with him, he didn't know what you were talking about persay, he only is having sex, he's not mature enough to understand how women think, and that this can occur at just 16, and it's scared him.

He feels easier not to have as much sex and you won't feel like that. He's not realising that he would benefit if you had an orgasm and that he would be pleasing you as well and that it's okay.

I think your saying you don't masterbate but that you can almost orgasm with your boyfriend and want to feel it but he's not allowing it, chickening out if you will, and slowing down your sex between you.

He needs more understanding, so let the other's guide you a little there in how to help him see it's okay and fantastic if he can bring you to that level...

CW

Amber_1992 · 11-03-2009, 12:19 AM

how can i make it easiar on him to not be scard of it? could it also be the fact hes afraid he might come inside me and we concieve.

11-02-2009, 02:08 AM	#1
Amber_1992 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Modesto, CA Posts: 14	im so confused bout things help me plz alright well sadly im only 16 and i lost m virginity recently and him and i had sex again on Halloween and ever since Ive had so much tension and the urge to have sex with him. i don't masturbate or anything because i have my own opinion on it and im against it. idk what to do or how to solve it. im just so horny im extremely emotional and he cant do anything.

11-02-2009, 02:21 AM	#2
CHANDLERS WISH WH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 9,910 Blog Entries: 7	So sweet, there is absolutely nothing wrong with masterbation if your partner is not with you, if he is you are fine to believe that you don't need to do it... That's your call. What are you upset about? What has he said? How long have you been with him? Welcome to the Forum. CW __________________ Do we not realise that in order to find a soul It doesn't happen over night if truth were to be told Like everything in life that's hard to achieve you must believe! Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

11-02-2009, 06:44 AM	#3
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 6,225 Blog Entries: 5	Are you using conception control? What is it that he can't do? Masterbation helps you learn what it takes to orgasm, relieves tension, and lets you know your own body and be in charge of your sexuality when you can't be with a lover. From the little you've said I'd guess you had sex, didn't orgasm but maybe came close and your body is craving that expereince? __________________ We can only learn to love by loving. Iris Mudoch, British writer

11-02-2009, 09:27 AM	#4
LanaBear Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Moon Lander Champion! Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: A cozy little cottage on the moon. :-) Posts: 1,646 Blog Entries: 5	I can't add anything to the above, but if you could elaborate as to what you confused and upset about, it would help us give you advice. __________________ Sometimes life isn't the party we hoped for, but since we're here, we might as well DANCE!

11-02-2009, 07:24 PM	#8
ThexMrs Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Oregon. Posts: 2,732 Blog Entries: 13	Please elaborate on what is confusing, what he can't do and why you're emotional. Also, if you don't mind... I'm curious as to why you don't masturbate and what you think is wrong with it? __________________ "I carry your heart with me, I carry it in my heart, I am never without it, anywhere I go, you go, my dear, And whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling."

11-02-2009, 01:00 PM	#5
StillLearnin VIP Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 75	Sounds like you are freaking out mainly about it being your first time. It will be ok. Just be careful and use protection.

11-02-2009, 02:35 PM	#6
nightqueen Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 184	You don't have a problem having 16 at sex, but think masterbation is wrong? What kind of advice are you seeking?

11-03-2009, 12:08 AM	#9
CHANDLERS WISH WH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 9,910 Blog Entries: 7	Okay, a little bird added some more, so this is my take You've had sex with him a few times and you almost had an orgasm and it's playing on your mind because you want that, you want to feel that, but when you discussed it with him, he didn't know what you were talking about persay, he only is having sex, he's not mature enough to understand how women think, and that this can occur at just 16, and it's scared him. He feels easier not to have as much sex and you won't feel like that. He's not realising that he would benefit if you had an orgasm and that he would be pleasing you as well and that it's okay. I think your saying you don't masterbate but that you can almost orgasm with your boyfriend and want to feel it but he's not allowing it, chickening out if you will, and slowing down your sex between you. He needs more understanding, so let the other's guide you a little there in how to help him see it's okay and fantastic if he can bring you to that level... CW __________________ Do we not realise that in order to find a soul It doesn't happen over night if truth were to be told Like everything in life that's hard to achieve you must believe! Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

11-03-2009, 12:19 AM	#10
Amber_1992 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Modesto, CA Posts: 14	how can i make it easiar on him to not be scard of it? could it also be the fact hes afraid he might come inside me and we concieve.

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