I have only been sexually active for the past 10 months of my life and I have a few questions concerning my sex life and my boyfriend as well.

--- I was a virgin until I met him, whereas he has had three other partners before me. I have asked him to get tested (although we are both sure he doesn't have anything) just to give me a definite piece of mind, especially with the spreading of HPV. I am already genetically prone to contract cervical cancer and other problems in that region of my body. So, is it too much to ask him to do this for me? How do I be persistant without being pushy? Should I go the drastic route and just cut him off from sex until he does get tested?

--- We have a very active sex life, engaging in intercourse at least once a day, and twice a day on the weekends. I think I'm getting bored! Every time it's the same thing to the point where it just doesn't feel as good as it should. But if we don't, then we both go to bed a little frustrated, making it a horrible night's sleep. We've spiced it up a bit with lingerie and positions, is there anything else I can try to keep my attention? Or should we just stop for a while, so that we can both appreciate it more?

--- Some weeks our schedules are conflicting. I work at a restaurant where I am required to work a lot of double shifts. The day after I worked a double I got onto his laptop to check some email and waste time, when I discovered the browsing history of the day before, which consisted of at least 60% porn. His response was he was "bored". I just joked around about it, because I look at porn as well (although I am more open about it). Then today I went to retrieve a deleted item from the recycle bin to discover at least ten deleted porn videos of one pornstar in particular. Why is he hiding it? Does he have a problem? He has lied to me before about having some pictures on his computer, which he deleted as soon as I found out. I am pretty open about things, especially sexual, considering everything is new to me. But am I wrong to be concerned about this reoccuring situation? He shouldn't be ashamed and he definitely shouldn't hide it. Right?

I'm new at this whole sex thing and at this site, so if you have any information or opinions, please share. Thank you!

Oh... wow.. I'm newer at this sex thing than you are, so I don't know how much I can help, but it seems like you've got a lot on your place as for the porn thing. There's a "porn, cheating?" thread on this site, I don't know if you've already taken a look at it yet, but I'm sure you'll get some opinions there. I don't think you're wrong to be concerned about this, since you two are in a long term relationship, and honestly I would have a problem with it too. Maybe he is thinking the same thing as you are regarding the dull sex life? Spice it up and maybe he'll find the action in his bedroom a lot more exciting than masturbating to porn by himself.

Is he the kinky type? Sensual? is he into role playing? Costumes are hot. Do the deed in a place where you're afraid to get caught. That always thrills me.

As for the getting tested thing... usually my partners were willing. So I don't know. I know some people who told the guy that they wouldn't have sex with them unless they got tested. Hahaha.. a little harsh, but might do the trick!

Good luck!