Condom Chafing - "Ouch!"

geode · 11-04-2009, 07:55 PM

Hi Everyone,

I'm new to the forums and I'm glad I stumbled on this website because it has a lot of good information.

I have a question and I'm hoping you guys could help me with. I'm recently divorced and since then I've reconnected with a gentlemen who I've known for a little over 10 years. We'd lost touch, but reconnected on Facebook and we've been conversing over the phone ever since. I know that eventually we'll "go there" because the attraction is still there after all these years. My concern is with using condoms. I know that this is par for the course and I do plan on using them at all times, but my concern is that it will cause our sex to be unenjoyable. When I was single I remember that condoms would frequently cause me to chafe after sex - usually not at the onset, but as it progressed. And I'd be near raw afterwards.

My question is what tips can you guys provide, be it products or "setting the stage", that could help with this? I know the obvious answer is lubricant, but can you guys recommend a lubricant that gives the provides the right amount of moisture without losing the friction that comes with intercourse? Again, any tips (products or otherwise) would be greatly appreciated. Going from not ever having to use condoms (while married) to using them is going to take a lot of getting used to and I want to make the transition as pleasurable as possible.

Thanks!

**Mes_T** · 11-04-2009, 08:14 PM

Oi, I know how you feel. I really don't like condoms for this reason. They just almost immediately make me so DRY! I haven't tried using a lubricant, so I don't know what to recommend in regards to that... But it had crossed my mind that maybe I'm allergic to latex, hence the immediate dryness and discomfort. Have you tried other types of condoms?

geode · 11-04-2009, 08:20 PM

I didn't know there were others besides latex.

Well let me correct that...I've heard of lamb skin condoms but I'd heard that they don't prevent stds. What other types are there?

**Texasred** · 11-04-2009, 08:55 PM

Lambskin are as good at disease prevention as latex, and far far better feeling!
Take it from a guy...

**WildChild** · 11-04-2009, 09:07 PM

I have a problem with this too; latex sensitive, allergic to most lubes and condoms dry me out like sponge. Saliva does the trick.

**Texasred** · 11-04-2009, 09:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WildChild

I have a problem with this too; latex sensitive, allergic to most lubes and condoms dry me out like sponge. Saliva does the trick.

There's always that...

d4lly · 11-05-2009, 04:02 AM

yeah i hate condoms for that too...it rele hurts sometimes

me and my bf just use water based lube and apply it everywhere down there lol but it does dry out so we just re-apply it...its annoying tho

geode · 11-05-2009, 07:19 PM

Thanks for the tips guys! Especially you, TexasRed for the info about the lambskin condoms. That will be the ones I choose. Are they hard to find? Can I pick them up at the local Walmart or do I need to go to a specialty store?

alterview · 11-05-2009, 09:56 PM

everything i have read about lambskin condoms suggest that they are porous (just like our thin membranes) and are not effective for std prevention.

just a brief fyi. do a little search before you buy them.

in my condom wearing days, when i was in a long term relationship (std test et al), i definately preferred lambskin condoms. better heat transfer and they stay slippery.

best bet is to find a lube that works for you. my current wonderful gf always tells me to not be stingy with the lube.

best of luck from another divorcee that has a new found love of life!

geode · 11-07-2009, 09:19 AM

Thanks Alterview! I'll be sure to do my research. I have known my friend for a long time and I do feel a sense of security with him, although we haven't done anything yet, but I'll make sure to give more thought to the lambskin - maybe using them when and if we become committed to each other. I guess plenty of KY it is, lol!

Thank you guys for all the responses.

11-04-2009, 07:55 PM	#1
geode Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 6	Condom Chafing - "Ouch!" Hi Everyone, I'm new to the forums and I'm glad I stumbled on this website because it has a lot of good information. I have a question and I'm hoping you guys could help me with. I'm recently divorced and since then I've reconnected with a gentlemen who I've known for a little over 10 years. We'd lost touch, but reconnected on Facebook and we've been conversing over the phone ever since. I know that eventually we'll "go there" because the attraction is still there after all these years. My concern is with using condoms. I know that this is par for the course and I do plan on using them at all times, but my concern is that it will cause our sex to be unenjoyable. When I was single I remember that condoms would frequently cause me to chafe after sex - usually not at the onset, but as it progressed. And I'd be near raw afterwards. My question is what tips can you guys provide, be it products or "setting the stage", that could help with this? I know the obvious answer is lubricant, but can you guys recommend a lubricant that gives the provides the right amount of moisture without losing the friction that comes with intercourse? Again, any tips (products or otherwise) would be greatly appreciated. Going from not ever having to use condoms (while married) to using them is going to take a lot of getting used to and I want to make the transition as pleasurable as possible. Thanks!

11-04-2009, 09:07 PM	#5
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 6,233 Blog Entries: 5	I have a problem with this too; latex sensitive, allergic to most lubes and condoms dry me out like sponge. Saliva does the trick. __________________ We can only learn to love by loving. Iris Mudoch, British writer

11-05-2009, 09:56 PM	#9
alterview Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: oregon Posts: 18	warning everything i have read about lambskin condoms suggest that they are porous (just like our thin membranes) and are not effective for std prevention. just a brief fyi. do a little search before you buy them. in my condom wearing days, when i was in a long term relationship (std test et al), i definately preferred lambskin condoms. better heat transfer and they stay slippery. best bet is to find a lube that works for you. my current wonderful gf always tells me to not be stingy with the lube. best of luck from another divorcee that has a new found love of life!

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11-04-2009, 08:14 PM	#2
Mes_T Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 202	Oi, I know how you feel. I really don't like condoms for this reason. They just almost immediately make me so DRY! I haven't tried using a lubricant, so I don't know what to recommend in regards to that... But it had crossed my mind that maybe I'm allergic to latex, hence the immediate dryness and discomfort. Have you tried other types of condoms?

11-04-2009, 08:20 PM	#3
geode Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 6	I didn't know there were others besides latex. Well let me correct that...I've heard of lamb skin condoms but I'd heard that they don't prevent stds. What other types are there?

11-04-2009, 08:55 PM	#4
Texasred Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: North Texas Posts: 124	Lambskin are as good at disease prevention as latex, and far far better feeling! Take it from a guy...

11-05-2009, 04:02 AM	#7
d4lly Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 17	yeah i hate condoms for that too...it rele hurts sometimes me and my bf just use water based lube and apply it everywhere down there lol but it does dry out so we just re-apply it...its annoying tho

11-05-2009, 07:19 PM	#8
geode Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 6	Thanks for the tips guys! Especially you, TexasRed for the info about the lambskin condoms. That will be the ones I choose. Are they hard to find? Can I pick them up at the local Walmart or do I need to go to a specialty store?

11-07-2009, 09:19 AM	#10
geode Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 6	Thanks Alterview! I'll be sure to do my research. I have known my friend for a long time and I do feel a sense of security with him, although we haven't done anything yet, but I'll make sure to give more thought to the lambskin - maybe using them when and if we become committed to each other. I guess plenty of KY it is, lol! Thank you guys for all the responses.