cntrygrl_z28

So I've recently gone through a divorce. Don't be sorry! It's the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me!! We won't get into that right now though. After the divorce became out in the open more and more guys would come up and try to get a date. I'm just not having it. I don't want anything serious what so ever.

Except for this one guy that has been flirting with me since 2 years back Sending me flirty emails and such, never really paid him any atention. He's good looking and very active like myself(unlike my ex). He also recently went through a divorce. for the past 3 weeks we've been hanging out, not really putting a name to anything. I don't want to have to answer to anyone for a while, don't want anything serious.

I think new guy just gives me the attention I so desparately needed that I didn't get while being married. My Ex never told me I was beautiful, never held me after sex, nothing really romantic. But new guy does all of the above. He looks at me, he touches my whole body afterward. He told me the other night that my body was art. hehe He looks me in the eyes and always kisses me during us being intimate as well.

If something comes out of this then it does but I really don't want any attachments right now. He says he's on the same level and that we don't have to put a name to anything.

Is it possible to have no attachments at the rate we are going?

CHANDLERS WISH

Not really Your hehe, means your already having some emotional attachment in the back of your mind...

It's the want and will of what you didn't have that you so desperately want that your prepared to accept what's on offer and sub-consciously that's all you want as well but on the same accord, you want what you never had.. so you won't be letting this go.

And, that's okay... I think it's normal since my ex - husband was idential

Just try to keep your heart in check.. All that it is showing you is that there are men out in this world that don't have a problem showing emotions at all regardless of whether they have been divorced they probably didn't have what you didn't have either. It's beautiful but it may not be right timing that's all.

Keep your thoughts on what you think and him too because you may both find each other over time and stay together, the moment you "cling" to wanting you may scare him and him you...

Just "be...". for now and enjoy, it's your life, you suffered enough and you deserve it.

CW

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LanaBear

I agree with CW. Possible for no attachments, yes, at the rate you're going, unlikely...

But, it does sound like the both of you are having fun and that's a good thing. Just don't throw your heart out there 100% right now.

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caterpillar79

CW pretty much summed it up. Handle your heart with care. Enjoy what you have and have that sense of presence.

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