Thread: question about female sexual pleasure

ive just turned 19 and have been sexually active since i was 16, its only been this year ive found out what i like.
I also have been masterbating since i was about 14 so i find it very easy to make myself orgasm, i can make it happen within a minute if i want to, its just nobody else can make me even though it feels amazing when my boyfriend does it.
i'm the exact same i wish one day that my boyfriend can make me orgasm manually and hopefully one day get to the point during sex where i feel as though i might come, ive never gotten to that stage, i also wish it wasnt so hard for me to let go during, then maybe i might feel something all the time.
it seems that the pill does decrease my sex drive, its not totally gone though my head says yes allll the time wheres as my body sometimes just doesnt cooperate, so if this low dose pill doesnt work or makes me worse, i'm off on the wonderful journey of non hormonal iud's.
I'm still really scared to get one of those read loads of people experiences and it sounded pretty scary so its a last resort really.
i also ordered the orgasm loop last night so heres hoping it helps, thank you to the people who recommended me it, i know wildchild did and possibly others i'm sorry that i cant remember who else but i thank you aswell x

Originally Posted by m.hendry

ive just turned 19 and have been sexually active since i was 16, its only been this year ive found out what i like.
I also have been masterbating since i was about 14 so i find it very easy to make myself orgasm, i can make it happen within a minute if i want to, its just nobody else can make me even though it feels amazing when my boyfriend does it.
i'm the exact same i wish one day that my boyfriend can make me orgasm manually and hopefully one day get to the point during sex where i feel as though i might come, ive never gotten to that stage, i also wish it wasnt so hard for me to let go during, then maybe i might feel something all the time.
it seems that the pill does decrease my sex drive, its not totally gone though my head says yes allll the time wheres as my body sometimes just doesnt cooperate, so if this low dose pill doesnt work or makes me worse, i'm off on the wonderful journey of non hormonal iud's.
I'm still really scared to get one of those read loads of people experiences and it sounded pretty scary so its a last resort really.
i also ordered the orgasm loop last night so heres hoping it helps, thank you to the people who recommended me it, i know wildchild did and possibly others i'm sorry that i cant remember who else but i thank you aswell x

This is great! If you can have an orgasm masterbating, then in time you'll be able to figure out what makes you come with your partner. The important part is that you can come.

Yes it's normal. Nerves/ stress can be a big part of it. If your not feeling nervous or like you have something else on your mind, than it just might be technique. I can't orgasm unless my clitoris is stimulated. Lubrication and toys can be very helpful.

I didn't know you had to work to orgasm! I have learned something here, I am lucky as !!!! I have been masturbating since I was about 14 and I'm 19 now, but I don't need clitoral stimulation to come either, in fact I can come if my boyfriend arouses my nipples for a while, try that. Also I think you have to let go and feel good in yourself too, that's a big part of it. good Luck!!