Thread: Little Help from You Knowledgable Woman

Do not let yourself be intimidated by her past, its her past for a reason. And just because a guy is a cut up bodybuilder doesn't mean his sexual prowess is anything to write home about

Now for initiating without having to change and become some aggressive person that you aren't... and that she may not even want... She may mean assertive, as in letting you know you want her more than throw her down on the bed kind of aggression... she might mean that though... communication is really key... you'll have to talk to her about that but here are some things you can do:

1. Start early, with her mind. From work, send her a message that tells her you were thinking about her, and she makes you so excited... etc... This will plant a seed in her mind that will make her think about sex. You don't have to be dirty if you're not comfortable with that... but just a little hint of your desire for her will light her up and get the pot on a slow boil

2. When you see her, let her know how pretty you think she looks, notice her outfit... her hair, her attributes Tell her how hot she is. This will make her feel good about herself, evoke confidence, make her feel sexy. Nothing helps put a woman in the mood more than feeling good about herself.

3. Flirt. Flirt. Flirt. You've been together a while, keep it new by treating her like she's new. Make eyes with her at dinner, give her a little spank as she walks by... etc.

4. Do something that makes her day easier, if she always does the dishes, do them for her and surprise her with some free time. Even just a few minutes of free time that you save her can make her feel appreciated, and that seeps its way into your bedroom. Warm up her car for her in the morning... anything that lets her know you thought about her and care.

5. Sensual touches. Stroke her hair while she talks about her day, rub her shoulders, caress her back gently, lightly run your finger along her arm. Not overtly sexual but just giving gently pleasure to her senses.

Those are some things that might put her in a sexual mood... when you know she is one.. you can then advance things, whatever feels right. If you are making her orgasm, she's likely not bored.

Some women need theatrics in the bedroom, sure. But many just need to feel loved, special and of course to be provided with pleasure. Those things in and of themselves are hard to get bored of.

When you know you have her in the mood... and just don't know how to innitiate without feeling awkward, just touch her body. Rub her thighs, kiss her neck... place her hand on your body if its not there already -- that should get things started and you guys can just do whatever comes natural next

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

I think maybe your taking the word literally.

I believe what she means is walking up behind her, softly but with a little pulling back to you, you grab her hair and as she moves back into your body, you kiss her neck, then turn her around, kiss her passionately and both start ripping your clothes off, type of "aggressive"...

Take the move.

Not the force.

CW

Yup that would do it for me! (without the hair pulling)

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

I think maybe your taking the word literally.

I believe what she means is walking up behind her, softly but with a little pulling back to you, you grab her hair and as she moves back into your body, you kiss her neck, then turn her around, kiss her passionately and both start ripping your clothes off, type of "aggressive"...

Take the move.

Not the force.

CW

Yup that would do it for me! (without the hair pulling)