girl on top

**laswell89** · 11-23-2009 08:17 PM

I just recently started having sex with my boyfriend. We've only done missionary so far. Next time I want to try girl on top, but I'm pretty intimidated by it. I know he would love for me to take over and be in control but I'm not sure what to do with myself when I'm on top. Should I try to keep him deep inside or move in and out more? I have no idea how to position myself or what else to do so it will be good for both of us... any advice?

Thanks!

**Mes T** · 11-23-2009 08:42 PM

First off it's not hard to please a guy in this position, I mean the visual alone gets a lot of guys overly excited as is, so first focus on what feels most comfortable and pleasurable for you and go from there. If you are enjoying yourself, your partner will enjoy himself as well!

One way to do it is to sit facing him with your knees on the bed, and start by going up and down on his penis. Once you get comfortable with this (don't let it fall out and all that good stuff), you can experiment with a bunch of variations that should come naturally.

**xixpsychoxix** · 11-23-2009 08:52 PM

As a guy i can tell you that i have never had a bad experience with girl on top w/ my fiancee. it just feels amazing and it allows me to please her in some better ways too. just as Mes_t said, make sure it doesnt come out... keep it deep enough to stay in cuz that just HURTS. honestly the best part i think is being able to see her so well while she is on top of me. getting to see her face, her breasts, everything all at the same time drives me up a wall. and even though you're on top dont be afraid to let him do some of the work either. i LOVE to do alot of the work when she is on top because it turns her on so much. i think you will both love it.

**Mes T** · 11-23-2009 09:37 PM

Yeah that's a good point, sometimes when I'm on top my BF actually does the thrusting and it's HOT.

**dr.mansview** · 11-23-2009 10:09 PM

try leaning forward with your palms on either side of his head and let your breasts brush his lips or lean back, arch your back and thrust your breasts out..he'll love the visual

**laswell89** · 11-24-2009 04:44 PM

Originally Posted by xixpsychoxix

As a guy i can tell you that i have never had a bad experience with girl on top w/ my fiancee. it just feels amazing and it allows me to please her in some better ways too. just as Mes_t said, make sure it doesnt come out... keep it deep enough to stay in cuz that just HURTS. honestly the best part i think is being able to see her so well while she is on top of me. getting to see her face, her breasts, everything all at the same time drives me up a wall. and even though you're on top dont be afraid to let him do some of the work either. i LOVE to do alot of the work when she is on top because it turns her on so much. i think you will both love it.

Thanks, it's helpful to hear a guy's opinions on it. I seemed to picture myself doing all the work, but I guess you're right, he will prob naturally do some of the work too. Sounds like a turn on for sure.

**Steph33** · 11-25-2009 05:14 AM

My guy loves me on top, bonus is it feels good but he can't cum in that position. Best is on the floor, I can have my feet flat on the floor and the "pogo-stick" motion lets him see all of me and I can pound him as hard as he wants (which is often pretty hard). Hands on your knees help your thigh muscles from getting tired though take care he doesn't come out and you smash him on the down stroke. When I take a break and move to my knees and grind him, he loves to sit up and kiss me or my chest. And I love hearing him yell how much he loves the various parts he can see. I'm the only large breasted partner he had and when I'm pounding him rather hard my boobs bouncing make him lose his mind. Bend down and kiss him deep while you're grinding, I get some of my best kisses that way

**Texasred** · 11-25-2009 11:07 PM

Originally Posted by laswell89

Thanks, it's helpful to hear a guy's opinions on it. I seemed to picture myself doing all the work, but I guess you're right, he will prob naturally do some of the work too.

I don't think you could STOP him! lol

You just do what feels good to you, and I promise you, he'll enjoy it!

Hint: Try propping him up with two or three pillows under his upper back, and see what he finds to do with his mouth...

**Cloudnine** · 11-26-2009 07:52 PM

so, i was wicked nervous when he suggested we should do it on top also. we were having sex for about a month before i decided to try it.

it was amazing, you get to control the speed, your boyfriend enjoys the view and you both enjoy the pleasure

and i personally love it when im on top and he grabs my hips and does the work. anyways, you should try it.