Thread: I don't like sex!!!

I am a 25 year old female, attractive with a fit body. I am a nude model and feel very comfortable in my skin, being shown in an artistic nude fashion.

I feel sexy but I don't like sex.

I am finally admitting it now as before I was afraid to tell myself this because everybody likes sex. I am also bisexual and I know I like both sexes but sex does not feel good to me. I love oral sex. I love giving and receiving oral with men and women. I also masturbate often. I can acheive orgasm with oral (yet it takes a long time) and I can quickly reach orgasm solo but I have to use a vbrator and I can only cum if its on my clit. If I use my fingers I can't cum and if I insert the vibrator it is very uncomfortable and unpleasant.

I do get turned on before I have sex but I do not get wet. I am always overly dry and have always been this way. I will use lube if its available but that dries up quickly too. I've used different kinds and they all dry up within 30 seconds. Often sex can be very painful. Even with fingers only. Any type of penetration is awkward for me. Sometimes I have to stop because my inner labia becomes so swollen that its impossible to get anything in and it almost feels like I need to put an ice pack on my cooch. I am naturally very tight even though I've been with very large and small men. I don't know why its so uncomfortable for me. I never have orgasms from penetration either. When I first started having sex at 16 I had a couple orgasms and the last time I had an orgasm (from sex), I was 18. Since then, sex has been uncomfortable and I don't think I really like it.

You probably did not want to hear from a guy, but your title caught my attention and I had to reply.

I completely agree with you!!!!

I too am a nude model (we are in desperate need for models if you are looking for work) and I am also married, but I really hate sex. I am very sexually minded to almost being perverse, but the truth is when it comes down to actually having sex it makes me uncomfortable and it can even be painful like you said. Doing it my self is usually more desirable than someone else doing it.

I say all this though to encourage you, that as long as it is not a medical reason that you are in pain there is nothing wrong with you. There are many other people out there just like you that may be too embarrassed to admit it. In your search for a partner, if you can find someone else like this it will make it a lot less stressful for both of you and you will be happier; if not, or you already have some one who you really like, as long as the bond is there they will want to please you in any way that you want. You can have a very close, intimate time without penetrating. It may be hard, but you are who you are, be happy with it; you are obviously beautiful or else people would not want you to model for them. Just because someone else likes something does not mean that you have to like it.

Good advice above

Not everyone enjoys sex its not everything in life

You are enjoying sex just not penetration sounds more physical than mental go and see your doctor even if its just piece of mind.

Hope it all works out

Ouch, took a year finally to found it.I think I am in the same boat...

I don't believe women dont like sex, there has to be a good reason why you wouldn't like sex.

Has some one interferred with you ?

Psycho-sexual trauma ?

You don't like the way your genitals look, our some other part your not happy with ?

Other than that its poor techique.

I dont know why you wouldn't be wet if you find it erotic ?

Dildos - to me thats just commerce its not about making love to a women and how it should be done.

I think you have to find a lover that is patient and genuinely cares about YOU, and is not primarily concerned about his own needs.

I have never had a GF that didnt get wet.

None.

Human beings to some extent have lost their way, sex has become a selfish ignorant act that is at worst, - is a nightmare, at best orgasm, but orgasm I believe is rare.

By what i understand your publication, you like sex, what you don't like is the penetration? am I right or no?