Thread: Sex Too Rough??

A good way to scar yourself mentally (and quite possibly physically) is to allow yourself to be hurt during sex.

A couple years down the road we don't want to see you on here posting and wondering why you hate sex, why you can't orgasm, and why you just don't enjoy it? Because this post you just posted will be your answer.

I dated a guy who enjoyed the rough stuff....he'd always push the limits a bit to see how far I'd let him go, but he never went there without my approval. We had an awesome sex life because he brought me out of my comfort zone, but he never hurt me and he certainly never repeated something if he knew it hurt.

Put a stop to it. Don't be so passive that you allow yourself to be hurt. You will disrespect yourself for it, and he will disrespect you (even more than he already is) for it.

Saying "Ouch, that hurts!" and pulling his hand away will help. If he sees that you're not going to put up with it, he'll likely change his behavior.

Thanks guys for all your input. I am pretty paranoid about men anyway, so yes, this makes me wonder. I have said "ouch" on occasion and he'll stop, but then sometimes just start doing something else rough. That's what's the most aggrevating. The fisting thing I made it pretty clear him trying that hurt and I don't like pain and he did quit, but lately his thing has been going down on me while fingering my G spot. It feels amazing : ) but lately he went from that to fingering real hard and it keeps me from reaching an orgasm.
Another thing that makes me wonder, he said his ex didn't like kissing him because she said he was too rough. He doesn't kiss me too rough, but apparently there is a pattern here.
Oh, and Chandler, he has mentioned watching porn once before, and I have suspected porn watching from the get go because of some of these things he does. Most of the time sex with him feels like a porn movie. I don't mind so much, but sometimes I do wish he was a little more sensual and gentle when he have sex. I don't mind him watching porn, except for this reason. I feel like it may change people's perceptions about sex.

I've never understood the excuse of 'getting carried away'. I know the sensation of hormones rushing to the brain and blood rushing elsewhere can make for some interesting and powerful feelings, but it's not so powerful that it stops the thought process altogether.

To me someone saying they get carried away sounds like they're really saying they were hoping you'd let them continue.