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    Unhappy Masturbating isn't working...

    This is too embarrassing for me to be able to talk about with anyone I know but, I've tried to start masturbating because I have to admit that I kind of have a high sex drive and I don't really want to have actual sex right now.

    I've tried many many times, but for some reason it really doesn't bring any pleasure to me AT ALL. Though when my boyfriend rubs/ fingers me it brings too much pleasure, sometimes it hurts.

    What's wrong with me? Any tips for me?

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    I guess all that can be done is to keep trying. I am in the same position with regards to feeling no pleasure from masturbation. I find it boring but I force myself to do it just so that I can get used to it, because obviously you cannot get anywhere if you do not try.
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    sounds like you need to try a different method. Toys maybe?
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    Quote Originally Posted by sourpuss View Post
    sounds like you need to try a different method. Toys maybe?
    Can't, I'm in my late teens, stores would ask for ID and whatnot.

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    It is possible it just doesn't work for you. I've been masturbating a lot for years. I'm not even sure I was technically a teenager when I started. I cannot get anywhere with fingers on clit. I can possibly increase other sensations a little or keep myself aroused for a few minutes if my husband and I get interrupted before sex but that's it. The feeling will eventually go away and I"ll accomplish nothing. Not being able to buy a vibrator I used nonvibrating objects to try to hit my gspot for most of my masturbation for quite awhile. I finally managed to get a vibrator about 4 years ago when I moved out of my parents' house to an apartment. Now I can actually stimulate my clit. It's the only thing that works there and it's not like I learned to use a vibrator first. I tried for many years several times a day without one and it really doesn't do much. I've actually gotten slightly better at using my fingers after using a vibrator but really if I want pleasure without a vibrator I have to go back to only inserting things. My husband has commented I'm the most difficult girl he's been with to get to orgasm from fingers alone. He was a bit against using toys at first and finally gave in since it required so much effort and frequently didn't happen otherwise.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kira View Post
    It is possible it just doesn't work for you. I've been masturbating a lot for years. I'm not even sure I was technically a teenager when I started. I cannot get anywhere with fingers on clit. I can possibly increase other sensations a little or keep myself aroused for a few minutes if my husband and I get interrupted before sex but that's it. The feeling will eventually go away and I"ll accomplish nothing. Not being able to buy a vibrator I used nonvibrating objects to try to hit my gspot for most of my masturbation for quite awhile. I finally managed to get a vibrator about 4 years ago when I moved out of my parents' house to an apartment. Now I can actually stimulate my clit. It's the only thing that works there and it's not like I learned to use a vibrator first. I tried for many years several times a day without one and it really doesn't do much. I've actually gotten slightly better at using my fingers after using a vibrator but really if I want pleasure without a vibrator I have to go back to only inserting things. My husband has commented I'm the most difficult girl he's been with to get to orgasm from fingers alone. He was a bit against using toys at first and finally gave in since it required so much effort and frequently didn't happen otherwise.
    then what objects could i use for now?

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    electric toothbrushes are popular (why didn't I think of that?). Living on a farm I had access to very large syringes. Some syringes come individually packaged in a hard plastic case the same shape as the outline of a basic dildo. 20cc syringes come in cases about the size of an average dildo. Not something everyone has around but it just shows you have to be creative. Sex toys from the feedstore. :P

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    Quote Originally Posted by kira View Post
    electric toothbrushes are popular (why didn't I think of that?). Living on a farm I had access to very large syringes. Some syringes come individually packaged in a hard plastic case the same shape as the outline of a basic dildo. 20cc syringes come in cases about the size of an average dildo. Not something everyone has around but it just shows you have to be creative. Sex toys from the feedstore. :P
    good ideas thanks

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    Some places like Brookstone or Sharper image sell "massagers". Their shape isn't obviously phallic, but its quite clear what they are designed for. On the other hand the store doesn't want to get a reputation for selling sex toys so they can't really ask for ID. (sort of don't ask, don't tell).

    for non-vibrating things, don't forget the fruit and vegetable isle of your local grocery store

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    I use an electric toothbrush and I will keep using it until I get a vibe. It works really well with pleasure. I get so much more pleasure with it than fingering myself.

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