Thread: I have been happily married for three years now..

Paul, I am very sorry you are going through this let me answer your questions

Is their a way that I can ask my wife without making her upset or disgruntled about enhancing our sex life?
You need to sit her down and have a nice long talk, tell her in the beginning of the conversation that you do not want to argue or offend her, but you have something extremley important that is bothering you and you really need her to listen to you, to hear you out, and not judge you in any way. This way if you start off the conversation with #1 u dont want to fight and #2 u dont want her to judge you it can create an open slate for you to begin speaking without her getting upset
You could tell her something like this: you find her extremley sexy and beautiful and you want nothing more than to be able to make love to your wife more often. You dont need it every other day, but certainly more often would be exciting and bring both of you even closer. Tell her how much intimacy makes you feel so wonderful. Tell her you understand she is exhausted at times, especially since both of you are caring for a child. Just be as open and up front about it. If she loves and cares for you, she will be open to try and make you happier

How can I find a way to make our sex life more enjoyable, like for example asking her to try new positions or new fantasies? I would tell her that you are not meaning to offend her in any way by asking her to try something new(because I know you had mentioned your wife is very religious-has strong moral values) but that you would love it if she was on top one day so you can see her beautiful body, or tell her you would love to try it this way or that way, as long as you say it in a nice way, I would hope that she wouldn't get offended, obviously you cant say: well babe I just want to throw you against the wall and ravage you lol , but definitley tell her what you want! Communication is key to a wonderful sex life

Do women masturbate in bed while sleeping next to their partner? I would not masturbate while in bed with my husband, I am loud and I think he would notice when I am having an "O" even if I try and be quiet, however that is not to say she "hasnt" masturbated in bed, maybe she has but dont worry about masturbation, just because she did this in the shower does not mean she loves you any less
masturbation is just a way of short,fast,release, relief
I can see why you are upset, she is only having sex with you 3-4 times a month
Does she know you heard her in the shower? she may very well deny, deny, deny
I would feel mortified if my husband caught me in the bathroom

Please let us know how this pans out, keep us updated and good luck to you

I really thank you all for your replies.

Millania, I liked what you had to say and I took some of your advice....Guess what? It worked!

My wife and I had a good discussion and we were connected like never before. The sex was great for a couple of nights in a row, which the only reason it stopped was because of her having to work.

I was more willing myself to relax and put her into consideration as well and we both benefited from it.

I am very happy with the way our discussion went and hope we can sustain what we are doing up to this point.

Thanks again to everyone that responded to my thread!

yay! success!!