Why don't you try giving him little "bursts" of oral every now and then, when he's not expecting it. Just a quick lick, a little suck, and then stop and continue going about your daily business. It'd be painless for you and REALLY fun for him!
Oral doesn't have to be about spending 15 minutes with your head down there, concentrating on making him come.
Yeah I do that, I just don't like seeing the look on his face when I stop. I feel like a tease.
Teasing isn't always a bad thing. You just need to know how to use it.
"All the beats and melodies keep realities at bay but what happens when the records done and starts to fade away? Alone within myself again, I try to veil away my pain. The dirty grey surrounding me 'round..... And now I hear no sound."
That is very true.
There may be a problem that he knows you did this for your "jackass" former boyfriend, but won't do it for him. Imagine if the roles were reversed. If he told you he used to do oral on his former skanky girlfriend because she insisted, but he won't do it for you.....
In the bedroom, everything doesn't always have to be a two-way street. You may enjoy some things, your partner may enjoy others. That doesn't mean that you should ever do something that you don't like, because you are virtually lying to your partner if you do so. I would suspect that might make you feel a little more guilty!
Eagles may soar, but weasels don't get sucked into jet engines.
Sounds to me like you have a very patient and understanding SO. Let him give you time, to find your own comfort zone with oral. Sounds like thats all you really need is time to heal from your past experiances with it, and an SO that is understanding and that you can build intimacy and trust with. Mabye in time you will be fine with it.
“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.” - William Arthur Ward
I agree with wagner2, not everything has to be reciprocal. hubby likes anal and I don't. do what feels comfortable for you HOWEVER I had a huge "what the heck" response when you mentioned that your boyfriend jokes about your sex life with his friends! Your sex life should not be a joking matter and should not be talked about casually among casual acquaintances
I have to agree that you have a very understanding boyfriend and even though he probably hopes you will eventually do that for him, he's okay with you not doing it. I know a girl who won't give oral due to a "gag reflex" issue. She even gags when she brushes her teeth. (She does the little licks here and there though.) Although her boyfriend would like her to do it, he doesn't give her a hard time and he continues to give her oral.....and they are now engaged! So not all men allow it to bother them.
And like wagner2 said about it not always being reciprocal.....for me, it's the other way around. I'm more of a giver sexually and don't need him to give me oral at all. If he chooses to, that's fine...but I don't need it. But nine times out of ten, I take care of him orally, because turning him on, turns me on.
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