Now what?

**Melephant** · 12-29-2009 03:13 PM

Hello!
My man and i have just had anal sex, it was the first time for both of us, but now i'm thinking 'What next?'

There wasn't much preparation prior to this little event, apart from a fingertip once in a while. We used a fair amount of KY and i'm surprised at how little it actually hurt. We didn't use a condom, purely cos anal was not planned -the idea popped into my head during sex and i practically begged for it.
Anyway, what now?
I just tried going to the toilet -rather uneventfully- but now i'm scared to go to bed incase of any unpleasant surprises.

What happens next??

Happy new year, girlies!

**danceintx** · 12-29-2009 03:16 PM

Well, nothing really. When you do have a bm it may hurt a bit, it did me at times after anal, but now that I got my bf to use lots of lube it doesn't. But other than that everything should be routine.

**Hopeless Dork** · 12-29-2009 03:22 PM

Definitely reconsider having anal without a condom. Even if you are totally clean bacteria can get into his urethra and give him an infection, he can pass this back to you if he doesn't clean before going back to vaginal... etc...

Even in committed disease free relationships, anal sex with condoms is the safest bet to protect from bacterial infections.

Sounds like you don't have much to worry about as far as lying down goes, going to the bathroom etc. Anal sex dialates ur rear end so you may find you pass gass without warning, or expell air for a day or so. If your bowels weren't empty ahead of time you could become impacted (constipated) be sure to keep an eye on that.

**Melephant** · 12-29-2009 03:30 PM

Phew!

Thank you ever so much, from both of us! Just didn't quite know what to expect.. We both enjoyed it but we're not going to make a habit of it, maybe just occassionally as a nice surprise!

Lol, fyi i would highly recommend it for anyone who is curious about it, though it definitely feels like you're ready to s***!

Though almost completely painless (apart from the first minute) if using plenty of KY!

Cheers girls, luvs ya

**Ahryin** · 12-29-2009 04:07 PM

Thats what you say about the pain! I have tried it and it feels like my butt hole is ripping apart. I'm afraid to relax because i'm afraid I might poopoo on his penis. (sidebar, sometimes I really wonder how the heck I became so comfortable sharing this stuff with you girls) Part of me wants to try it and part of me is really scared. He is well endowed but not a monster. So how about YOU give ME tips on relaxing..lol

**LanaBear** · 12-29-2009 07:01 PM

Ahryin - you never cease to crack me up!

Anyways, Melephant, sounds like you are on the right path with it, lots of lube and lots of relaxing, you'll be fine.

**Melephant** · 01-04-2010 05:37 AM

OK, an update:

That night after writing my last post for this thread i went for a wee and could not stop FARTING out my fiance's semen!!! It was absolutely horrific and totally uncontrollable!! Though still rather funny lol

For about two days afterwards i could not stop pooing! Next time i will insist he wears a condom, though (i thought) i'd emptied my bowels that morning so was not expecting THAT!

Ahryin, it was only my first time but my man is very well endowed and we'd experimented prior to the sex with nothing but a finger tip.. i'm guessing maybe you are not using enough lubrication as i was certainly not relaxed!

Plenty of KY and if he's very slow and gentle -maybe you could even do the thrusting? I did at first- you might succeed. At first neither of us thought it was going to happen as penetration was very difficult, but the amount of lube made it easier and, after a minute, it just kinda popped in! Lol, but after that i made sure i pushed back on him. The only time it kinda hurt, apart from the first minute, was when he came though i know he tried to be gentle, bless him. I immediately tensed up and didn't move a muscle.. I sort of just stayed there hunched over on my fists like a monkey lol.

We have since discussed it and decided we would only do this occassionally. I liked it but i don't want any complications from over-use..
And after my experience i would definitely, highly recommend only trying this with a condom! Apart from the obvious wet-farting (cringe) there was also a bit of leakage that wasn't completely clear, if you get my drift..