Thread: What is wrong with me!!?? Please help

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

make them just insanely flawless and impossible to live up to.

Maybe I just have a strange way of looking at this, but for me it's the other way around: It is impossible for the pictures to live up to the real thing. The women are static two dimensional images. It's impossible interact with, to touch and to hold, to connect with them like with a real woman.

I know we're talking about visual appeal, but I find that the non physical aspects of a woman, like personality and intelligence, enhance her overall 'beauty' and take it beyond anything a picture could ever offer. So a woman can have stretch marks, extra weight, and other things she might consider imperfections, and still be more beautiful than the most flawless porn model.

While I'm sure that many porn models are also wonderful and intelligent in real life, their pictures can't convey that, and most men are never going to see any more of the models than their pictures.

Originally Posted by Tex

While I'm sure that many porn models are also wonderful and intelligent in real life, their pictures can't convey that, and most men are never going to see any more of the models than their pictures.

A picture of a perfect girl can't rub your shoulders after a hard day, or lay you lay back in the bed while they pleasure every inch of your body, they can't listen to you, care for you, love you.

Yet some guys will make the girl that does all that for them, feel insecure, less than, inadequate to some photoshop fantasy girl.

If someone told me here, you can have a 100 grand in the bank, no matter what you spend, the balance will always be 100 grand, its yours to have and do with what you please. Or... here's a picture of 1 million bucks, you can't have it, you can't spend it... but boy isn't it pretty to look at?

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

A picture of a perfect girl can't rub your shoulders after a hard day, or lay you lay back in the bed while they pleasure every inch of your body, they can't listen to you, care for you, love you.

Yet some guys will make the girl that does all that for them, feel insecure, less than, inadequate to some photoshop fantasy girl.

If someone told me here, you can have a 100 grand in the bank, no matter what you spend, the balance will always be 100 grand, its yours to have and do with what you please. Or... here's a picture of 1 million bucks, you can't have it, you can't spend it... but boy isn't it pretty to look at?

Kind of reminds me of a conversation I've had with my friends kids, explaining the difference between thinking someones attractive, and actually wanting to be with someone. It's been proven so many times that looks relate to personality about as much as age relates to maturity.

I'd take someone that actually loved me and showed it over someone your never gonna see. You can kiss a photo, but a photo won't kiss you back!

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

Yet some guys will make the girl that does all that for them, feel insecure, less than, inadequate to some photoshop fantasy girl.

A symptom of a deeper problem. I used to have no idea why any guy would prefer Ms. Photoshop over the real thing, because I've never experienced that first hand, but I'm starting to realize that some of it might have to do with emotional withdrawal, a fear of getting too attached emotionally to a real woman. Contrary to popular belief, sex is an emotional exercise also for men, and so if they are afraid of those emotions, they'll try to avoid sex.

Going off topic for a moment, I wonder if that might also be a reason for why some men are habitual cheaters. I've never bought into the idea that men need to spread their seeds or that monogamy is unnatural, and I'm beginning to think that it is more a case of those men being afraid of getting too close to any one particular woman.. and so they sleep around, hoping that just a few encounters with other women won't cause an emotional attachment there either.