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  1. 01-07-2010 08:08 AM #11
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    Quote Originally Posted by vishva8kumara View Post
    Thank you very much, I'll try telling like that. That is the thing, it would just turn me on.
    You are welcome sweety.

    Yesterday also we got around a problem like that, that she does not initiate for sex. She said it is the way she was brought up, but when she would initiate it, that would make me feel so good. She said she was shy to initiate..
    One step at the time tiger!. If she was brought up that way you can't change her so quickly. You may never change her. Give her time to be comfortable with you... and sex. You boys rush all the time, slow down, take your time, she'll appreciate it. Be gentle and show her you care for her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mm1991 View Post
    Tell her that it turns you on when when she communicates her pleasure to you. Tell her you love it. She'll do it. I used to be shy too.
    Keep in mind that just because you tell her to do something does not obligate her to do it. If she isn't comfortable with it, the most you should do is gentle encouragement, otherwise you may cause her to retreat further.
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    If you do ask her about it or tell her it turns you on, I agree with WC that you should leave it at that. Let her do things at her own pace.

    I remember when I wasn't as sexually experienced as I am now, with my second boyfriend, I guess I was a little quiet. One reason was because I was nervous and thought I might sound weird. He always said how it gets him going when the girl makes noise, and I totally understand that, but he brought it up so much that all I felt was pressure. I found myself making noise even if it didn't feel great enough to do it genuinely. And that's no fun for either person.

    The more comfortable she gets, the more okay she'll feel about it. Just let her enjoy it as she does.

    I've got to be direct
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    You're standing on my neck....
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