Thread: Need advice in making him come faster

Originally Posted by LilahX

I'm not sure what you mean by 'dead on my feet'. Are you just wanting him to come faster because you're bored/tired yourself?

The process (for both of you) should be just as enjoyable as the end result. I don't really understand why you want to hurry this when it feels so good for him. Personally there's nothing I like more than spending a very long time teasing my man and making him feel good, bringing him to the brink then easing off till he's fit to explode. Great sex is about the journey as much as the destination. Actually I think it's more about the journey.

There is so much you can do so that you both are having pleasure the whole time, not fell like you're just working hard waiting for the big 'O'.

As for his unintense orgasm, that's not unusual for guys. I don't know if their orgasms are less intense physically than females (wouldn't it be great to feel one so we know?), but men tend to be quite 'introvert' about their orgasms. I'm pretty sure even tho they might look or sound like the top of their head is blowing off I reckon they feel it anyway. I wouldn't judge his pleasure by his reaction.

I wouldn't see him taking a long time as a burden, I'd see it as an opportunity to show him how much you love making him feel good.

Very nicely put.

I think - just judging by what I read - that there are plenty of people who wouldn't see "lasting a long time" as a problem.

Originally Posted by arabellafigg

Ok, i had a 6 year realationship with someone, this ended soon after i had our child, a year later i met someone else, we started seeing eachother 6 months ago but have only just started having a proper sexual relationship.

I know it's probably bad to compare men, but my ex used to come much more quickly. With M, it seemed to take a good 20-30 mins. He wasen't complaning, but i was pretty much dead on my feet! And when it did happen, it didn't seem very intense.

Any ideas on how i can make him have a much faster, deeper orgasm?

try to tickle his testacles during sex it works for me and my man knows then ive had enough, he loves it, trust me it works.

Originally Posted by arabellafigg

I dont think that he was trying to make it 'last longer',it just happened to take such a long time. I normally tell him if i am going to orgasm, and yes i do orgasm with him during sex so i dont think he was waiting for me either.

I've had a few partners with this problem. I dated one of them for a year and the only way he could come at all is if he pulled out and jacked off on me. I think with him it was a combo of ambien, alcohol, too much masterbation and simple being emotionally unavailable. None of these are very fun things to deal with. The men who have the problem but not such a big deal seem to just have reduced sex drive cause they are in their thirties/forties and I wear them out a bit. I think my voracious appetite intimidates them to a point. Men say they want a sexually open horny girl but really they always want to be the aggressor.

Originally Posted by Wintertime

Men say they want a sexually open horny girl but really they always want to be the aggressor.

Not to hijack the thread, but you aren't hanging out w/ the right men. My wife is a sexually open horny woman and I LOVE IT when she gets aggressive and acts very naughty.

I don't come very fast either. Part has to do w/ age. Part has to do w/ me wanting to stretch out the experience. And part has to do w/ years of trying to delay orgasm so my partner has a chance to come before I do.

Drugs can kill a libido, but this isn't the case, right?

Well it's all this old fellow can do to not "arrive" in under 2-3 minutes. Perhaps your new guy can give me a few hints on how he lasts that long. I think it's partly because it's so rare that my wife expresses any interest. Just to be safe, I always make sure that she Os a few times first.

Originally Posted by TheOldMan

Well it's all this old fellow can do to not "arrive" in under 2-3 minutes. ... Just to be safe, I always make sure that she Os a few times first.

Hey, not THIS old fellow! Once MY wife "Os", that's it until the next blue moon!

Originally Posted by TheOldMan

Well it's all this old fellow can do to not "arrive" in under 2-3 minutes. Perhaps your new guy can give me a few hints on how he lasts that long.

He says that it's mind over matter

I am not bored or uninterested and it hasn't put me off, i'm just used to it being faster. And he has since had more intense orgasms, so perhaps it was an anxiety thing i dont know.