what can I believe (its opposite)

**Hopeless Dork** · 03-07-2010 10:40 AM

I'd be mad too. If she told you that having your prostate stimulated should feel good to you, that lots of guys like it so you should too and demanded that you must try it and orgasm from it despite the fact you orgasm just fine with penis stimulation alone and don't even really want a finger in your rear... and she tries and tries it anyway and your still like eh, not doing much for me.. can we hurry up and get to the part where my penis is involved???? And then she gets all mad and still keeps trying... YOU'RE GONNA LIKE IT... a lot of guys do , your missing something!!

You'd be annoyed, perhaps even turned off sex all together eventually if your forced to enjoy it only in the way she thinks you should and not in the way you actually do.

Many woman find more pleasure in gspot (penetrative orgasms) than clitoral. MANY woman. I don't know why you want to believe that can't be true. Your wife is pleased , she is enjoying penetrative orgasms which many women WOULD LOVE to be able to do as sex would be more pleasurable for them... she's able to do that. You should be happy for her and enjoy her and yourself and not try to make her feel pleasure in the way you think other women do.

Womens bodies are different. Some don't orgasm PERIOD. Some orgasm from clitoral stimulation, some from gspot (internal) stimulation and some from both. I orgasm from both and let me tell you... I feel a much greater satisfaction from gspot orgasms than clitoral.. they are preffered by me though I am inclined to enjoy both.

I say you are making a sexual mountain out of clitoral mohill.

**stressed** · 03-07-2010 11:36 AM

Welcome to the forum, of course you belong here! We need male points of view too

Like everyone said here, you shouldn't worry about it. You've been married for 10 years, if she could reach a clitoral orgasm then:

1) She would have done it by herself by now, would know how it's done and would have shown you how to do it. If it was something that felt better or equally good as intercourse then she wouldn't be keeping it from you. On the contrary!

2) Women orgasm in different ways, many women don't even orgasm at all. Books won't always help you, the female anatomy is so complex that there is no 1 solution to reaching an orgasm that works for every woman. Even oral can be complex.

Don't let it get to you, it's nothing you do or don't do, it's how her body is. What's important is that she knows what she likes and wants to include you to it. She has no reason to fake anything, you've been together for so long that it would have come out by now anyway.

Don't feel bad about yourself, it's reasonable to have doubts every once in a while. I've read so many things that generally work on men which don't work with my man that when I overanalyze them I get frustrated too. But everyone is different and the key is to find what works best for our SO, not try to make them like what a high percentage of other people claim they like.

**stressed** · 03-07-2010 11:37 AM

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

I'd be mad too. If she told you that having your prostate stimulated should feel good to you, that lots of guys like it so you should too and demanded that you must try it and orgasm from it despite the fact you orgasm just fine with penis stimulation alone and don't even really want a finger in your rear... and she tries and tries it anyway and your still like eh, not doing much for me.. can we hurry up and get to the part where my penis is involved???? And then she gets all mad and still keeps trying... YOU'RE GONNA LIKE IT... a lot of guys do , your missing something!!

That's a very good point which made me smile