Thread: Cant get it in :-/

Hey guys,

Iv been with my bf for over a year now, we've been having sex for around 5months, he was my first, so im still new to this. About a week ago I tried getting ontop for the first time. I was pretty bad, but I guess that will come with practise (I hope!). The thing im worried about, is that it took a long while for me to actually get his penis inside me it was so awkward and fumbly, i got really embarrassed...

Tried it again last night and I couldnt get it in, we tried for a good few mins, then i get annoyed and the mood was ruined. He was lovely and said its ok, that we can try again another time, but I feel soo stupid! The porn vids, even amateur ones, make it look so easy. And everyone iv talked to have just said to 'jump ontop'... yeah if only it was that easy lol, please help me, i want sex to be as good for him as he makes it for me I feel like just an idiot

lube.

lube is your friend.

Get KY Liquid. Can be used with our without condoms.

Does NOT stop babies, though.

Think so? Cos I was wet enough for it to go in no probs when he was on top?

I had the same problem... Don't worry about it. Lean back until it goes in and then you can lean on top of him or lay on top what ever you like.... you give yourself a chance.... You will laugh ths off in a couple of weeks... Keep trying it is an amazing feeling to do the work and see how he reacts to your movements... Good luck. It takes time and praqctice... Damm we hate the practice part don't we...

Is the differnt lube for the anal?

I'm in the same boat.

I can get it in ok, but I have no clue how to move. I feel really stupid. And I feel especially bad cause I'm not with my first partner.

I don't feel bad about my body or being in charge but ..the movements are a real problem.

When you try this is he completely hard, or kind of soft? If there is any softness it could be a problem getting it in.

am i supposed to squat over it, or kneel? When im on my knees, i find it hrd to get the angle he's entering me right. and i dont want to hurt him

How do you mean lean back please?

ps. thank u's x

no he's been completly hard

There's different ways to do it, you can kneel or squat. Why don't you try the reverse cowgirl, where you're facing away from him.