Thread: Question about men and porn.....

For many men, and more women than people will admit, porn is simply the medium to arousal. There doesn't have to be any attraction or feeling of lust for the pornstar, but the act of watching others be sexual is fairly arousing for most people.

Personally, when I would watch porn, I would think of my SO and I in the position of the pornstars, and that used to turn me on very much. Admittedly I haven't watched in some time, but it's different for everyone i'd imagine.

VERY Common - but please remember that men aren't comparing the woman at home to the woman in the video! Porn isnt a threat - the men don't watch porn and think 'Id like to do HER' they are usually thinking 'Id like to do THAT to my woman'. They are indeed visual, but from all the men Ive spoken to about porn, they have almost ALL (with the exception of a few single somewhat juvenile fellows) said that they think about their significant other during masterbation! Woot!

My wife and I have been together for over 20 years. I look at porn while I masterbate alone. She knows that I do it. Sometimes she is ok with it, and sometimes not. Sometimes she has looked at it with me. I look at magazines with pictures of full figured women. She is petite. With todays focus on fitness and health she can't understand why I like to look at larger women, but for the most part she is ok with it. I am 46 and have been masterbating while looking at porn since I was .... 15? I just enjoy the fantacies and it is alot of fun.

Originally Posted by Chilly

VERY Common - but please remember that men aren't comparing the woman at home to the woman in the video! Porn isnt a threat - the men don't watch porn and think 'Id like to do HER' they are usually thinking 'Id like to do THAT to my woman'. They are indeed visual, but from all the men Ive spoken to about porn, they have almost ALL (with the exception of a few single somewhat juvenile fellows) said that they think about their significant other during masterbation! Woot!

I thought my hubby liked the girls/women in the porn movies to at first. too he always told me the same thing u were saying that he wants me and visualizes me while getting off. I didn't think it was true at first but. Now from what you said and what i was reading above. i will give him some slack lol I just thought he liked the girls or they were hotter or better than me or skinner but he was just getting ideas. Being that we've been together awhile now it doesn't bother me like it used too. If he is enjoying it and gets pleasure it's all good that was a good post thanks.