I am part of the group that also felt filled instead of pleasured when I first started to have sex. Even now a year and a half in I still get those "okay I feel nothing" feelings but if he goes at a quicker pace I can get some good sensations. There still is no orgasm because of it, and oral does not get me off either but oh well, its nice to know that I can let someone else know that they are not alone in the situation.
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omgosh same it rele frustrates me sometimeslol
yeah when he goes quicker it feels sooo much better
To understand each other's bodies takes time.
In addition if she is "thinking" how she is going to feel during this her mind is pre-occupied. Never, think it's you..
Faster? I think deeper... position... and passion.
Which may be hard to explain to you at 17...
Talk to her during, tell her she's beautiful, put her mind at ease, don't go fast, go deeper, change positions, and continue to tell her your love, reach each other's souls, it should not be sex, fast, is something that for sure us that have had it for a while understand but your at the beginning of your journeys.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
Penetration can feel awesome without a vaginal orgasm and I'm not sure if you're worried that that's what you're not achieving. I've never had one (as far as I can tell) but the sensations I get from penetration are mindblowing - BUT not with everyone.
I'm middle-aged and until I divorced sex was pretty ordinary. As you say 'neutral'. But now that I've had more experience with more men I've found that only a small handful have been able to 'rock my world' sexually. But that's me.
So, my advice? Give it time. There is so much for both of you to learn. Explore her body with your fingers, slowly. Take note of what feels good for her, what places. Later down the track work out what positions help you reach those same spots with penetration. Give her lots and lots of foreplay with your fingers and tongue to increase the blood flow to the vagina and clit.
Remember that sex isn't just about penis/vagina. It's about touch and intimacy and emotion and that all plays an important part.
One thing that may help (helped me) is putting a pillow under her butt which changes the angle of her vagina.
In all honesty at 17 you can't expect it to be fireworks. Sex (especially good sex) takes time (like good wine!). It's worth the wait and the journey ain't half bad too.
It will all get better it just takes time. Im 18 and i started having sex with my bf back in november and to begin with it didnt feel like anything special, its like i could feel it but it wasnt causing any real pleasure but now almost 3 months down the line it feels amazing!. It wont feel that great to begin with because u both need to get used to it and become in sync with each other but trust me that will happen and when it does u will both feel the results!
Good luck it will all work out
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