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    Hey, my bf masturbates a lot but after he cums once he cannot carry on because he finds it painful for the rest of that day

    I just wanted to know if its normal and is there anything we can do so he can carry on?

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    Quote Originally Posted by nameless View Post
    Hey, my bf masturbates a lot but after he cums once he cannot carry on because he finds it painful for the rest of that day

    I just wanted to know if its normal and is there anything we can do so he can carry on?
    This is definitely not normal. What sort of pain is it? Tenderness, aching, raw skin, burning urethra? (That last one would be a big concern). Has he tried different methods...lube, lighter grip? I would be finding the cause before attempting any carrying on.

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    He hasnt really described it he just says it gets saw so im guessing tenderness. He does sometimes carry on but it doesnt look enjoyable for him.

    Any ideas what it could be?

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    Oh Dear, I should have known I'm not the only one who knows a man stupid enough to do this to himself!
    If he masterbates frequently and has rough hands and/or does it vigorously, he's probably rubbing himself raw. Our progression went from amazing sex, fairly often, to less and less often and less good, to have to use a condom, to it hurts even with a condom, to none at all.

    Men get a penis and a brain and both require a blood supply to work. Apparently some of them can only operate one at a time. Somehow they aren't smart enough to figure out that they are doing this to themselves.

    Tell him to keep his hands off himself for a couple weeks. Otherwise prepare for a sexless relationship.
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    Quote Originally Posted by nameless View Post
    He hasnt really described it he just says it gets saw so im guessing tenderness. He does sometimes carry on but it doesnt look enjoyable for him.

    Any ideas what it could be?
    Sorry, I am not a doctor. Sore just doesn't describe it well enough and maybe a doctor is in order. It will be very embarrassing for him and, since you know about it somewhat, your support will be invaluable...maybe even be with him in the consult...but it may be just a technique thing or it may be more serious. It is not an area you want to second guess on.
    Help him understand what is needed and be there for him.

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    How can i bring up the subject with him?

    We talk about it fairly easy him more than me but it doesnt seem to worry him at all. It worried me because i thought something was wrong we havent been intimate yet but he wants to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WildChild View Post
    Men get a penis and a brain and both require a blood supply to work. Apparently some of them can only operate one at a time. Somehow they aren't smart enough to figure out that they are doing this to themselves.
    Totally unrelated, but this made me laugh histerically

    Anyway, when I was younger and first tried conventional masturbating, I didn't realize the importance of lube, and after doing it once and feeling like my skin was on fire, I didn't do it again for a long time Without further description i'm assuming this is the issue. If his pain is anywhere other than the skin on his penis, you may wish to suggest that he go to a doctor, as their could be something wrong. The penis is a good barometer to overall male health, so if somethings wrong there, there could be problems elsewhere.

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    Quote Originally Posted by newhere808 View Post
    Anyway, when I was younger and first tried conventional masturbating, I didn't realize the importance of lube, and after doing it once and feeling like my skin was on fire, I didn't do it again for a long time .
    You would think that byt he time they were on the far side of 40 they would figure it out, wouldn't you?
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    I'm not sure how to bring it up with him because he seems to think its normal. He just says its saw and he doesnt enjoy it if he does it again :/ He does it every night so I dont think he could stop for a day let alone a week lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nameless View Post
    I'm not sure how to bring it up with him because he seems to think its normal. He just says its saw and he doesnt enjoy it if he does it again :/ He does it every night so I dont think he could stop for a day let alone a week lol.
    The more you describe his behavior the more I have to agree that there is NO blood getting to his upper brain.
    Ask him, "If it hurts so much why do you keep doing it?"
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