Thread: Sexually Frustrated Wife

Not alone indeed... I sometimes wonder if there is something wrong with me because I want sex a lot. We have tried the open relationship, we both know it's just about the sex. BUT I sometimes feel that he wants somebody else to do his job which is fine until gets to the point that you don't want somebody else for that job but him. It's a very frustrating issue where you just try to hang in there.p

What an interesting thread this has been. At least the parts I have read.

I don't mean to divert the forum to my own dilemma, but I could use some female advice. Am a 40 yr old male and am sexually frustrated to tears. To make me feel even worse, the frequency isn't even that bad (due to previous compromise), but variety and passion are painfully lacking...i feel like I am out of options.

Am I just an unreasonable or unrealistic pain in the backside, or has anyone got a frsh perspective? Would love to hear from the ladies...

im in 3 now married now 16 years and i've been sick for the last 2 years, i still made time for intimacy when he wanted it, no matter that i couldnt have an O. Resentment is the right word. i feel cheap when he wants a quickie, last time i nearly threw up cause i felt used. i cant bring myself to cheat. but i am sincerely finding my strength and health back. Working 2 jobs now to pay off hospital bills and avoiding the dulldrum in the bedroom as it is just used to sleep. dont get me wrong i miss kissing, touching and i still want sex. but i find him to selfish to have that intimacy to enjoy it. i would rather masturbate then go to him, unfortunately at the moment i am involuntarily celibant. but i wont let him take whats left of my pride. cheating hurts its the cowards way out. in time when finances are better we will get divorced. but it will be well worth the wait, when i can find the right person. small sacrifices are worth making if, in return the reward is greater.

Originally Posted by Needahand

What an interesting thread this has been. At least the parts I have read.

I don't mean to divert the forum to my own dilemma, but I could use some female advice. Am a 40 yr old male and am sexually frustrated to tears. To make me feel even worse, the frequency isn't even that bad (due to previous compromise), but variety and passion are painfully lacking...i feel like I am out of options.

Am I just an unreasonable or unrealistic pain in the backside, or has anyone got a frsh perspective? Would love to hear from the ladies...

You should consider starting a new thread; this (very old) one was devoted primarily to a lack of frequent intimacy, where your issue seems (?) to be more one of variety.
This thread could probably be closed - but the content is fascinating to re-read!