Thread: My husband wants anal sex really bad

Originally Posted by klm

I had tried anal in college one night when I was drunk and had smoked something sweet and loved it. The next time it was painful as and I couldn't. Tried once more and OUCH, no way.
Skip ten years and now just tried it again with new bf. Relationship is way stronger, he is patient and only wants MUTUAL enjoyment, so that set the tone better!

We went out and bought a small/medium jelly "friend", used LOADS of lube and voila...tried that a few times and then one night when I was relaxed enough, I asked him to try putting himself in and it has been magic since.

I actually orgasm easier from that -and pushing out actually makes me squirt cum like a fountain when he is in my back end. It surprised no one more than myself!

I agree with everyone else, too.. the keys are a partner that is patient, loads of lube, and TO RELAX! What I disagree with is the position (and for everyone it is different, right?) - for me, I HATE being on top, so with him behind me, I push him into me at the speed and depth I am okay with. When I am relaxed enough, I give him the go-ahead to move in and out of me, but I control everything at first. It works for us.

And now, omg, I LOVE IT. I am shocked that I do (and slightly embarrassed to admit it because there is SUCH a dirty taboo around it), but really it has been a great discovery.
Have fun and we all want to hear how it goes!

I agree with you completely as far as orgasms coming easier thru anal. I love it and most times would prefer it over anything else. Unfortunately my husband isn't into anal as much as I am.

There's no wayyy you can actually prepare for this act. It's very uncomfortable in the beginning but with practice it will become easier and you'll both enjoy it very much. Just relax and use lube. That's it! All that advice about doing this doing that...isn't going to work for everyone so do what works for you. Good luck and hope you have fun!!! Glad my husband loves it as much as I do!!!

Here's how you do anal.

1. Take two enemas shortly before-hand. Those Fleet disposable ones are ok. This has the dual purpose of providing ideal hygiene AND ensuring that all of the space available in the rectum is available for penetration. Sorry for the graphic detail, but these are the necessary steps.

2. Take a thorough shower. And of course WASH YOUR !

3. Have a LOT of foreplay.

4. The lead-up from the foreplay should be intense analingus. I'm talking serious tongue-ing.

5. Of course thoroughly lube the penis (oil-based is not ideal) as well as the outside AND inside of the anus.

6. Yes, of course he should ease his penis in.

But even more important than easing the penis in is this:

7. As soon as the penis is even half an inch in, you must use your muscles in a way that is the same as moving your bowels. If you have taken two enemas before-hand, you should have no fears of embarrassing discharges. And, when the muscles are in the position for something large to exit the anus, they are also in the position for something large to enter the anus.

8. Good luck ! And I hope you post about your success.

Originally Posted by WildChild

LOL I can just imagine the quandry this would put some men in.

Probably about the same quandary a woman would find herself in if her guy asked her to bring home a porn dvd.

Who likes granny porn...yee haw, lol.