Thread: Penis Size Issue

Hi, I've been seeing a guy for four months and all is going well apart from the sex side; he Has a very small penis.

He tries hard to please me in other ways but the actual sex is not enjoyable, he can last quite a while but I am wanting it over and I feel sex is already becoming a chore.

The only other man I have been with since my divorce was a long time friend who was on the larger side and I miss that kind of sex.

I don't feel i can discuss this with him (he has never mentioned size) without appearing horribly shallow, and I can't talk to my female friends as his sister is really nice and is now part of my group of friends. Any advice really appreciated.

He can't change his penis size. If you love him and want to stay with him, you are going to have to focus on the other aspects of your intimacy that make you feel good including and not including his penis. If you want to feel something bigger occasionally you can get a toy that he can play with you with. You don't have to say you want to use it because its bigger than him.

You can have him watch you pleasure yourself, or have him do it for you.

i also agree with Hopeless. For me, in a loving relationship, sex is a bi-product of that relationship. Not the other way around.. What i am trying to say is that the relationship determines the sexual part..not the sex determining the relationship.If this is what you have (i realize four months isn't long) with him then you guys will work it out. It wouldn't seem shallow to me that it is sexually frustrating and not as enjoyable during sex for you. That is purely physiological, you can't help it... However, if you were to end a relationship with a good man that you otherwise would love to be with..that's where it may seem shallow in my opinion. make sense?

I wouldn't go as far as saying you are being selfish. Don't be so hard on yourself. You are just trying to be honest about the way that you feel. Totally acceptable. Sex has been more enjoyable in the past with lovers who are larger in size. Your current partner isn't up to snuff (IN THAT DEPARTMENT) and it's leaving you less satisfied. That sounds perfectly understandable to me. I personally am an advocate for open, honest communication in a relationship. Even when the subject matter may be a little hard or awkward. If i were in your man's position i would hope my girlfriend would feel comfortable enough to help me understand that she needs more. Obviously with any guy it will sting when you come to the realization that the very essence of your manhood (how most guys think) isn't up to par. Even more so, the idea that you aren't satisfying your woman would stink too. It's a tough situation for both of you.