Thread: DW losing intrest, Question for the ladies

There are some people, as we have seen here, women and men, who for whatever reason, just put sex on the back burner or cross it off the list. In some cases it may be a physical issue; hormones out of wack, pain, lack of sleep, there could a variety of causes. But most cases, flat out, are in their thinking. The mind is the biggest sex organ. What we think, hear, see and are indoctrinated into from infancy, takes its toll. We bare bombarded with religion, media and societal norms that work against having a healthy attitude toward sex. Some might think that the hyper sexuality of advertsing, movies, TV and such contradicts the no sex messages of religions, but it doesn't. It feeds on a sense of naughty, wrongness, being the "bad" girl or boy.

Most of us want to be "good" and "nice", So maybe we go through a little "naughty" phase, especially when infatuated early in a relationship. But then we do what "good" people do and settle down, commit, have kids, then we need to be "grown up" and " good". If our programming is that "good" mommies, daddies, parents, grown ups, aren't sexual or sensual - sex goes out the window. Some men without realising it try to enforce this on their wives. Mommies aren't sexy, wives aren't sexy, or interested in sex, so even if she is begging for it, he may just shut her out. The flip side of that is women who have deep down, bought that thinking and cease to even think about sex.

The truth is connected, caring sex, revitalizes both genders and helps keeps a relationship strong. You can overlook a lot of minor annoyances and disappointments when you have a loving, fun, sex frequently. Guess we need to start straightening out our thinking, one person at a time.