Thread: 10yrs of Frustration

If you read through the threads here, you will find that is a common experience for women with a high drive. [/QUOTE]

Women with high drive? In your opinion, is the high drive something women are born with or is it something they acquire. For me, my sexual drive hasn't changed much. I get horny daily but I can go without sex for a week easy but the second week is where I struggle. By the 3rd week, it is almost unbearable to the point where I am aroused by any visual stimualtion of the female body. So this is why it is difficult to understand how my spouse can go 4 to 8 weeks without sex. Sure we have talked hundreds of times about this very subject but at the end we end on saying "things will change" but really they dont.

I do not want her drive to match mine, that is unrealistic but if as a woman you can go 4 to 8 weeks without sex then you are depriving your spouse of a normal sexual outlet. I could never do that to her. I am sure it is not on purpose.

Not to sound old fashioned but I do believe in marital roles. I mean I am the main breadwinner in the family. I was taught that as a man, I need to support my family, cut the grass, protect my home, fix things. I was also taught that a woman also has certain duties: main child rearer, cooking for the family, caring for the family. I do believe in crossing these roles in this day and age but I still believe in the basic priniciples I was taught.

Oh yeah, b4 I am crucified. I was raised by a single woman .

Originally Posted by pretzel

Welcome to the forum.

Just to ease some of your fears, I'm a guy also but a bit older (some would say not necessarily wiser) and I've been there, done that, there again.

Quite honestly, your wife's response "I get horny every week but life gets in the way" really is her mind set right now. You have a small child, she either works full time also or is a full time mom. Either way it is draining on her. Whether or not we like it, for a lot of people, this is true.

If you haven't already done things, do whatever you can to make her daily life less stressful. Find ways for her to have free time with or without you. As her stress levels decrease other enjoyable things increase.

There is a country song titile "Mr. Mom". There's an older movie with the same title. They are rather appropriate. Every father should spend at least one week a year being the full time parent to their child. Total role reversal. After that one week, you would gain an insight into what many full time mothers go through. It will change one's attitude.

If there is one piece of advice I could give. Life is a roller coaster. There's ups, downs, turns when you least expect them. Always remember that there's someone right next to you that is going on the same ride.

I am glad you suggested this but I do this once a month. I can't handle it. The job she does a wife is overwhelming when I try just one day. I am amazed at how women do it but this is why I love women. This still doesn't explain why from 1999 to 2006 she was still a once a month type woman. I fully understand that having a child and working should decrease our sexual relationship but it did not. She has been once a month woman since 1999. Thanks for the "Mr. Mom" advice, truly eye-opening.