Thread: Found out my boyfriend is on viagra !!!

Last night my boyfriend told me he wants to marry me (that made me so happy!!!) and minutes later said he had a secret I should know about him.

His confession is that he uses viagra when we have sex!!! I had no idea ! I have been having sex with him for about six months. No wonder his erections are always very firm ! Our sexual relationship has been ideal and now he tells me this !! I am 24, he is 45. He is a very loving man, romantic, affectionate and a great lover. But now I have to face this truth, that his hard erections are due to a drug and not to his love/attration for me. He says that he loves me dearly but he is not able to acheive the erections he experienced 10 years ago. He says that he is very attracted to me and that he loves me more than anyone in this world. However, I wished he had told me this before. He says he was embarrased to tell me. He came out of the closet now because he says he loves me and does not want to marry me without making this confession. I guess I should give him credit for having made this confession before we get married. I feel confused. Should I run away or marry him ????? Please give me your frank opinion. What would you do ??

I dont see a problem as long as he treats you right and isnt not telling you anything else! sex isnt everything

I think if you truly love him then you will marry him. If he loves you, that is all you need to be happy. Good Luck

He loves you, that is why he is taking it. It's a physical thing when men get a little older. My BF takes Viagra too and I am so glad he does. I did ask him alot of questions so I would understand how it works and what he is going through. We have a very healthy sexual relationship. i hope this helps you.

I'm sure the news came as a big shock, but since he is older, its probably just a physical thing and doesn't have anything to do with his attraction to you, and it is great that he told you.

It took a lot for him to tell you this. Sounds like a good man. You don't have a problem.

Originally Posted by Thalia

Last night my boyfriend told me he wants to marry me (that made me so happy!!!) and minutes later said he had a secret I should know about him.

His confession is that he uses viagra when we have sex!!! I had no idea ! I have been having sex with him for about six months. No wonder his erections are always very firm ! Our sexual relationship has been ideal and now he tells me this !! I am 24, he is 45. He is a very loving man, romantic, affectionate and a great lover. But now I have to face this truth, that his hard erections are due to a drug and not to his love/attration for me. He says that he loves me dearly but he is not able to acheive the erections he experienced 10 years ago. He says that he is very attracted to me and that he loves me more than anyone in this world. However, I wished he had told me this before. He says he was embarrased to tell me. He came out of the closet now because he says he loves me and does not want to marry me without making this confession. I guess I should give him credit for having made this confession before we get married. I feel confused. Should I run away or marry him ????? Please give me your frank opinion. What would you do ??

He's 21 years old than you. That can work, but remember that sometime you will be an active young-feeling woman of 60 and he will be an old man of 80. I'm not saying you shouldn't, but be aware of what you are getting into. Viagra is no big deal, but age brings all sorts of problems.

If you love him, and he loves you, then by all means spend your lives together, but be aware of what you are getting into.

No, no, no - age is just a number.

The only problem i see here, is that if he actually propsed last night.....when people ask you "oooo, how did he ask you" - youre going to be thinking "viagra"

Its not a problem, as long as youre comfortable with it and it definitely doesnt mean that you dont satisfy him or anything like that....id personally just want him to ask me to marry him again...without the mention of viagra.

Iv seen more long lasting relationships where there is a larger age gap between couples. As for the viagra I would think your feelings would be different for him if he were not on it from the start. He wanted to make a good impression on you and obviously thought you were a keeper so I think you should go with the flow.

I'm sorry if this sounds insensitive, but you want people to give you advise whether you should marry this much older man because he is on Viagra? Viagra is your hook up? This man who wants, the having and giving, of the pleasures of sex with you. And now you are confused?

My advice is not to get married to him or anyone else until you can sort out you priorities.

Sorry