It depends on the individual. Some people are more fertile than other, some ovulate at different times during their cycle, some men have strong swimmers that would render precum a fertilizing agent, and some swimmers will just drown.
The bottom line is - if you don't want to get pregnant - get birth control and use it responsibly.
Like my doctor says ... if you're not preventing it, you're trying.
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Yes, I was out of the country for the month prior and had my period while I was gone.Originally Posted by WantingToBeWanted
He would have told me if there was the slightest thought that he waited too long. And there was only one time we used that method that week and the other days we used a condom.
But still possible, and it does happen. And there are a lot of young people, with little sexual experience that come here looking for advice, I feel it's always better to be safe than sorry.
I agree 100%! If withdrawal was a concrete, trustworthy method then other forms of birth control would not have even been needed, and therefore not created.
Better safe than sorry! Better to take extra precaution as not enough!
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The effectiveness for the withdrawal method (which is essentially what you're doing--exposing your gf to pre-ejaculate but not ejaculate) is about 85% in a given year of perfect use of that method. So if a 15% chance of getting pregnant is acceptable to you, go for it. But it sounds like you don't want to get pregnant. That said, it's a much better idea to use a more effective method to keep from getting pregnant!
I think that most have used the withdrawal method. There are lots of problems with that; pre-come, handling the ejaculate afterwards, pulling out early enough when its just starting to feel really good, etc. Of course unprotected sex does not always result in pregnancy, but there is a good chance that sooner or later it will.
To the OP: unless you want to make a baby and are ready to accept the responsibilities that go with that commitment, you need to use some form of birth control. Understand that even if she goes on the pill, you will need to use some other method until the pill fully takes effect. (Her doctor can advise her on this.) Whatever method is used, it has to be used consistently and correctly to work. (Even the pill.)
Then there is always the irony factor: I had a gf with whom I had very regular sex, and her preferred method of birth control was a spermicidal suppository sort of thing that was shall we say, not conducive to spontaneity, since it required waiting 20 minutes or so after insertion before, uhm, insertion!
And we were nothing if not spontaneous, so the full waiting period wasn't always observed; sometimes we couldn't wait at all.
So afterwards, we were sometimes left with several weeks of uneasy suspense until her next period occurred.
Now for the irony part: when she finally DID decide to have children, guess what? She couldn't! Due to a (fortunately treatable) condition called I think endometriosis (?).
So, the point of this long ramble is: you just never know.
- TR
Condoms and spermicide are the best way to go. No muss no fuss. When and if used both methods of BC used all the time there should be no probably It would also help if she tracked her periods religiously. Like carry a calander/datebook with her in her purse. It's how I stay protected and worry free.
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