Anal Sex can be very painful if you don't start out slow and relax. Personally, I love it. It turns me on and feels good at the same time. When my husband and I first tried it, we used lube and he pushed it in slowly. You have to relax your butt and don't tense up anytime he is starting to put it in..Also tell him to take it slow until you have loosened up a bit. I know it sounds gross saying that but its true. This is just some advice to help you out if you still wanna have Anal.
Agreeing with everyone else that has tried it... Use lots of lube, try your best to relax. There are lots of threads on here with advice, so you may want to search and read some of those too. It's important that you be vocal during the act. Let him know to go slowly, tell him to wait if you need to relax for a second mid-process, etc. I'd talk to him beforehand and let him know it was NOT pleasant for you and that you need him to be cognizant of how you are feeling during the process.
And again... LUBE... Buy a good one!
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Relaxing is one thing, but at entry it is easier if you bear down right before, as if you were having a bowel movement. This tenses and then relaxes the muscles and makes it much easier. Once he has the head in, have him stop and wait. You will feel your muscles release a little, then you can give him the go ahead to go deeper. Do not allow more vigorous action until you are ready. This has to go at your pace.
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I innicated anal dialogue and ultimately us trying trying and finally succeeding at the act. I am a pretty curious cat and I had heard so much about it I wanted to give it a go.
My guy was down for the exploration. He was not overly enthusiastic, nor disinterested either he just goes with the flow on most of my crazy antics
The first time we tried without lube... yeah... it didn't happen. The next time we used lube but it... still didn't happen. The third time was a charm and a successful attempt.
It was uncomfortable but not painful, we used LOTS of lube. But something in my vagina was stimulated from the pressure he was placing behind me. I never got so wet from anything. Maybe it was the wanting of it somewhere else, the craving that caused it..
Or just the fact that we were doing something 'naughty' . But after the act I was passing air all night and went and slept on the couch to not embarass myself lol. While it was not traumatic, nor extremely pleasurable its something I'd like to keep on the menu.
We haven't done it again yet, but I'm down to try it on more.... but definitely not on a routine basis. It would have to be a seasonal deal. Its a lot of prep and timing, I'd only inniciate when I knew I'm completely empty and pristine and would have to be able to have time to hide in a loud room the next day with all the air passes.
I couldn't imagine going through all that frequently... but once in a while to spice it up? Sure.
If its causing you pain. STOP. It should not HURT. It may feel crowded, it may feel like you have to push it out, it may feel uncomfy but PAIN= stop. You can tear your bowels during anal sex. Its not super common but it happens. Thats why they say avoid the numbing lubes as you need to be able to FEEL when something is off... if your numb you won't be able to.
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