Why don't women ever initiate sex?

**WildChild** · 03-31-2010 04:26 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Mulder, you haven't answered my question? See, these "men" that are telling you, may also be lying, to cover the fact that they don't want it as much and you keep talking about "sex"... which is why we aren't that into it...

Sex, is spontaneous and great when in that mood... But what about making love? Have you asked your "men" that question? If they know how to? If they can make a woman orgasm time and time again where she way wants it?

LOL, CW you know what kind of response he'll get. They're are ready to go all the time and are all wonderful, attentive lovers ---Yeah, right.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-31-2010 04:32 PM

Lols...

Yeah but it bothers me, that the word "sex" seems to be the focus..

We know,

Sexual
Sensual
Soulful

And, I have read from a "Few" men here, that they Know exactly what each one is, that they know how to reach a woman in each facet, and "want to", but very, very, few get it

**WildChild** · 03-31-2010 04:38 PM

I enjoy sex, but nothing but, is like always having fast food.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-31-2010 04:41 PM

Depends... If it's in the kitchen or loungeroom or outside doesn't it?

**WildChild** · 03-31-2010 05:26 PM

You need some gourmet loving some times.

**caterpillar79** · 03-31-2010 05:53 PM

Originally Posted by WildChild

You need some gourmet loving some times.

You ladies cracked me up. Especially when you made it a "gourmet" setting - it made me think of the slow paced, and tender service.

**Mes T** · 03-31-2010 06:36 PM

Now I'm hungry, and in more than one way!

**caterpillar79** · 03-31-2010 06:48 PM

Originally Posted by Mes_T

Now I'm hungry, and in more than one way!

Want some "protein shake", Mes_T? Uhmmmm, oh, I forgot...that was the swallowing stuff thread I had in mind...hehe.

On the topic: Some women who used to love to initiate stopped initiating for fear of rejection. I am one of them, and I found it difficult to deal with rejection, so I just wait for my DH to initiate. Likewise, I have initiated once or twice and he loved it.

But to tell you frankly, I really love the way he "prepares" me to the deed. The way he touches, oh, the romance...hence, I am better off waiting for him because I love the way he does with our foreplay. Meanwhile, I give him a cue if I am horny, in subtle ways like wearing a sensual lingerie, or when he comes and hugs me, I do something naughty, or kiss him passionately among others, and he gets it. This way, I really don't "initiate" per se, but I make it obvious that he can devour me.

I'd say, generally, it depends on how well you know each other. It should not be an issue of who initiates, for when the loving is great, and you being the man is on to pleasing your woman, you should be able to pick up the cues she sends you no matter how subtle.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-31-2010 06:54 PM

A funny story

The other day, I was wearing white tracksuit bottoms.. The length of them "too long", and so I was walking through the house, wet floorboards, that needed to be re-mopped, dirt and all, and so the bottom of the pants became, well chocolate brown

So, David, said, I don't think you can wear them again, I laughed, looking at them and thought pfttt, get a new pair that's shorter, and so.... I took them off there and then, put them in the bin, walked inside, with a short white top on and white g-string knickers, back to him and continued walking.

Next thing you know.... we were in the bedroom.....

Moral of the story? I initiated sex............................................

AMEN...

lol's.

CW

**LanaBear** · 03-31-2010 07:06 PM

lol - the boys were at a neighbors house last week, so I was walking upstairs with him following me, we were going to go start laundry or something, can't remember. Anyways, as I was walking up the stairs, I started peeling off my clothes. He asked what I was doing, I said 'Oh, nothing' and like you next thing you know.... we were in the bedroom.

Moral of the story? I initiated sex............................................

AMEN...