deep-throating for someone with nasty gag reflex - please help!

**fml2004** · 04-12-2010 06:13 PM

like the title says, looking for advice on getting past the gag reflex. typically, i can only do the first 3-4" - it gets the job done but sometimes interrupted by gagging, and once or twice, vomiting. thankfully, he's great & doesn't complain, but has made it clear that he'd enjoy it if i could take a bit more. have tried couple of different positions and different ways seem to work on different days.

so, any advice? used to think it was just the idea of him cumming that made me panic a bit but don't think that's the problem.

**caterpillar79** · 04-12-2010 06:17 PM

Practiced with a banana before?

**LanaBear** · 04-12-2010 07:49 PM

Some women just can't do it. That gag reflex is a pain. If you can't, use your hand to help along. If I don't feel like it, I'll wrap my hand around the base, then I can still play with the other 4" with my mouth, but the hand around the base helps with additional stimulation.

Regarding positions, this one has helped me. Lay on your back on the bed with your head hanging off. When he stands in front of you, your head is right there (I guess it obviously depends on the height of your bed). With your head back and throat stretched it makes it easier for you to take more in. It works for me anyways and provides a good show because he can look down your body and use his hands as well.

**fml2004** · 04-12-2010 08:27 PM

Originally Posted by caterpillar79

Practiced with a banana before?

actually thought about that, then wondered how many people have choked to death. . . maybe with something a little more solid, like the thicker end of the carrot. have tried my toothbrush but the bristles tickled too much!

Originally Posted by LanaBear

Some women just can't do it. That gag reflex is a pain.

understandable but still

yeah, using hands definitely helps - sometimes it's the only way i can finish without reliving my last meal (very sexy indeed). my bed's pretty low but will try that position with pillows.

anybody know if you can condition your throat for something like this?

**ItsASecret** · 04-12-2010 10:10 PM

anybody know if you can condition your throat for something like this?

There is only one answer to this question....do it more often. You do not need to go to the point of vomiting but if you take him in and go just to the point in your mouth when you can feel a very faint gag reflex and just hold it there so your nerves can settle down it can help the process. Just keep repeating that sort of process, every once and a while increasing the amount you take in but again not to the point of gagging, think of it as training your nerves to not be crazy. The more you stimulate the area and have it become accustomed to the feeling of the gag (without actually full out gagging) the easier it will be because your nerves will be trained not to go haywire when his penis gets that far back in your mouth.

**grrrr** · 04-12-2010 10:53 PM

I totally get the gag reflext thing. Sometimes I get that too.... oddly enough I think altering my breathing helps some. Not always, but sometimes...

I like Lana Bear's idea... gonna try that one.... someday

**fml2004** · 04-13-2010 09:09 AM

Originally Posted by ItsASecret

There is only one answer to this question....do it more often.

thanks, will definitely try this, which may earn you a thank-you pm from him

think it's possible to work up to deep-throating or could that be a physical difference between women (or men, for that matter)?

have also noticed that if we've gone at it a while and then try this, the smell makes it worse cuz then i can't breath thru my mouth or my nose.

**Alaric** · 04-19-2010 12:44 AM

As a guy , I say if it doesn't work for you , don't do it. I've only been with a couple women who could but it has never been a "deal breaker" for me. The lady being happy and enthusiastic are the real turn-ons for me. Also , I can barely brush my tongue (when brushing my teeth) without gagging. It's a nasty feeling and I sympathize.

**A Dying Breed** · 04-22-2010 03:15 AM

Originally Posted by BloodyMoonLight

get a guy to face **** u! itll get rid of the gag relfex!

Thats not true. It can often make a woman vomit because of the intensity and force used. And throwing up stomach acids with a penis in your mouth will not be good for either of you.

**fml2004** · 04-29-2010 03:06 AM

Originally Posted by Alaric

As a guy , I say if it doesn't work for you , don't do it. . . . The lady being happy and enthusiastic are the real turn-ons for me. Also , I can barely brush my tongue (when brushing my teeth) without gagging. It's a nasty feeling and I sympathize.

Thanks, that helps! Does seem to be what he appreciates, eagerness to do it without needing dive for the trashcan. Wasn't until i started looking for ideas about how to get over this that i learned how bad the gag reflex is for some people, that some have trouble eating or taking medication. Sorry to hear about that!

Originally Posted by A Dying Breed

Thats not true. It can often make a woman vomit because of the intensity and force used. And throwing up stomach acids with a penis in your mouth will not be good for either of you.

+1 on all of that! He was rather gun-shy for a while after i vomited the first time (thankfully it's only happened twice!), so him trying that would have ended horribly! Guess i'll have to keep practicing