Thread: Curious

Originally Posted by LanaBear

If we were all attracted to the same aspects in a man, life would be boring and probably result in a lot of cat fights.

Maybe it's the guy in me talking, but that would NOT be boring


And to the OP. So far, I havent been kicked. In fact, I stole two arcade high scores right out from some women's noses, and they still havent banned me

Different girls like different aspects. I know my girlfriend likes eyes and hair.

And I'm not saying it isn't nice to have somebody want your body, but personally I would want a girl to fall in love with me because I'm a charming, intelligent character. Not because I have rippling muscles and perky nipples.

If you really want a girl to be attracted to you, you have to go out with her and find out what she likes, and change your body accordingly (as long as you are comfortable with it). While it is common for alot of women to fall for the same movie star, it usually has to do with status (not calling them shallow, it's natural instinct for them to desire somebody with prominence). You think every single women thinks Brad Pitt is hot? Probably. But it's because he's a movie star (not calling him ugly).

Take an average joe who doesnt look dirty or ugly, and give him a gigantic paycheck and some important job, and women will be more attracted to them (not shallowness, just natural instinct).

This doesnt apply to all women, but do you really think EVERY woman who was a fan of Johnny Damon when he was with the red sox did so because he was pure sexiness? (They could barely see his face!) No, they also associated him standing out from the crowd and being a famous baseball player. Women dont fall in love with a guy because of status (usually), but it definitely widens the playing field for any guy with a good job and a confident attitude.

Welcome!

Chest hair~ I can take it or leave it. My dh has six. (yep, six) But I wouldn't love him any less if he had a ton. I prefer a smooth chest, but one of my best friends LOVES hairy chests on men.

I think it's safe to say most women prefer a man's body that is kept reasonably fit. I don't care for pot bellies and flab.

I was attracted to my husband by his looks, on the physical side, and his morals, sense of humor and caring on the emotional.

Porn? Fine, dh and I watch it sometimes. Sex toys? Also fine; can be lots of fun.

It should be pointed out that any woman worth a salt who loves you for YOU is not going to obsess about the things you mention. People are package deals... if you care for someone you either accept the whole package or you don't.

I think there are women who are turned off by the "body builder" types. It just looks over exaggerated, and definitely not snuggable. I personally like a guy who is fit, nice pecs, nice abs, nice arms. YUM! I prefer no chest hair. I don't like hairy guys, it creeps me out. Sorry. I have always like porn, I watch it alone and with my husband but we do have to mute it cause the women drive us crazy with their over zealous orgasm's. Sex toys can also be great, also all the creams, lubes etc they have out are good.
Each woman finds something different attractive in a man, and we may be attracted to several different types of men. There isn't just one cookie cutter mold for each woman. A great sense of humor catches me first though, if you can make me laugh and laugh at my smart comments we are good to go. I guess it depends on if your talking about physical attractiveness or emotional/mental attractiveness....