Thread: Is this a orgasm?

Yeah I know what you are saying! I've had an orgasm only a handful of times, and it's only been when my bf was involved, and it wasn't just focused on my clitoris. So like, I know what it's supposed to feel like, but I can never reproduce it on my own.

And also, my bf is really depressed bc I always get him to orgasm and all he wants is to return the favor and it never happens. Those few times it happened were over a year ago and we haven't had any luck since. I dunno what to do!

We've tried everything short of buying sex toys and vibrators. We really wanted to figure it out, without the use of a device. I feel like I should be able to orgasm using just my fingers, but it always gets too sensitive and stops me short of actually having one, same thing happens when my bf tries, so idk. It's depressing to me too.

Originally Posted by Beckers

And also, my bf is really depressed bc I always get him to orgasm and all he wants is to return the favor and it never happens.

We've tried everything short of buying sex toys and vibrators. We really wanted to figure it out, without the use of a device. I feel like I should be able to orgasm using just my fingers, but it always gets too sensitive and stops me short of actually having one, same thing happens when my bf tries, so idk. It's depressing to me too.

That is SO me! Although we did buy one of those wand vibrators - holy that thing is powerful! I can only take it for so long though - SUPER sensitive from it, but I don't climax because I just cannot take it anymore. And i don't enjoy forcing myself, I've tried, but that just doesn't work. Sure, I want to know what it feels like, but I'm actually more concerned that HE gets discouraged.

PandaPaws- !!! Me too! Obviously it's more important to me that I orgasm, but I'm also incredibly concerned for my bf because I don't him to think it's any reflection on him. I feel so much better that you agree !

don't think you had an orgasm and you might've touched a sensitive area. After an orgasm you shouldn't feel pain... just not anything at all. An orgasm makes you feel like this extreme feeling all over your body though so you might've been close.

[QUOTE=i have always wondered if it was just me or if the guys i have been with just had no clue. QUOTE]

Many don't have a clue which is why women need to know what works for them so they can offer subtle guidance, but when you strike someone who does have a clue - wellllll it's like winning the lottery lol

It looks like I have definitely not had one then! guess I will just have to keep practicing!

Originally Posted by Beckers

PandaPaws- !!! Me too! Obviously it's more important to me that I orgasm, but I'm also incredibly concerned for my bf because I don't him to think it's any reflection on him. I feel so much better that you agree !

Yeah, it's somewhat comforting to know that others are in the same boat, yet it's too bad we can't come up with an easy solution. And it seems that my bf thinks he's gotten every single girl he's ever been with off like all the time. I'm sure there were some real ones, but i know a lot of girls fake it fairly often, and I wish they wouldn't, because then for those of us who don't, now it makes the guy feel bad.