Receiving Oral Sex, Underwhelmed?

**pinknfwuffy** · 04-23-2010 07:35 PM

I just recently (within the past few months) started having a sexual relationship. Its been a great experience until recently, realizing I don't get very aroused from receiving oral sex. In fantasy it turns me on and I have no problem with concerns of cleanliness or the like. I just can't seem to get into it even though he has tried multiple different approaches and styles to find what I might like.

I think part of the problem may be the wet factor. Until recently I have only enjoyed my own manual stimulation with relatively low moisture arousal and the focus on stimulating the area around my clit, not the organ directly. Could the extra moisture be desensitizing me, i.e. less friction? It feels okay down there, but there arn't any fireworks or anything remotely close to orgasm potential.

I don't mind not enjoying it neccessarily, there are plenty of other things we enjoy together. But I would love to learn how to get more pleasure out of it. I love returning the favor for him and I would enjoy giving him the same satisfaction I get from making him feel good orally. Any suggestions?

**Anon_1990** · 04-23-2010 07:37 PM

Did he tease you with his fingers first, kissing down your body (including breasts) and thighs, kissing really close, then starting oral? That used to work when I had a girl.

**pinknfwuffy** · 04-23-2010 07:54 PM

Originally Posted by Anon_1990

Did he tease you with his fingers first, kissing down your body (including breasts) and thighs, kissing really close, then starting oral? That used to work when I had a girl.

There's always a lot of foreplay involved and no problems during any other activities. I just can't understand why something craved by many women (and something I really thought I would enjoy) hasn't really been a highlight for me. Has anyone else felt this way?

**Anon_1990** · 04-23-2010 10:19 PM

maybe if he rubs your clit and licks you at the same time, do you like having your butt touched too? Maybe that could help you.

**LVDesigns** · 04-23-2010 10:33 PM

My fiance will finger me while licking. Feels amazing. Maybe try that? Get a little bit of both worlds and not just of one.

**heryseshta** · 04-24-2010 12:32 AM

My boyfriend actually just using his tongue and flicks it over my clit. Very rarely does he actually lick inside of me. If I wants to stimulate inside me he either uses his fingers or he uses my rabbit and uses the vibrations and licks my clit at the same time.

**ItsASecret** · 04-24-2010 02:05 AM

Sexual acts vary between everyone, just because you see other women enjoying it does not mean you must. I know I don't get much out of it, I mean sure it feels good but like you said "no orgasm potential". There is no set way to experience pleasure in the bedroom and there is no exacting fail proof method for anything so as long as you do not get worried you should focus on the other things that give you pleasure.

**LoNelyBaBe** · 04-24-2010 03:20 AM

hunny sit back relax n enjoy it - at least u get some tongue -as for me...no luck =)

**jns** · 04-29-2010 05:24 AM

Why doesn't he try to give you oral without making things wet by using dry lips to squeeze the area near the clitoris. Also, he can use one lip to move the clitoral hood up, down and sideways. As long as there is no sliding or rubbing, rather just pushing, pulling or squeezing, the lack of lubrication is not a big problem.

**PandaPaws** · 05-03-2010 05:06 AM

I have been with guys where I didn't get much out of it either. Just kind of a bunch of wetness moving around down there...
But then there have been other guys where it is really good. And even then, sometimes it's just not working, who knows why. I like it best when I'm fingered at the same time.